jetskiman_1 Posted February 27, 2005 Posted February 27, 2005 Hey everyone, this is my firt post and hopefully this helps me with something tough. I have made the decision to break up with the girl I havebeen datin for 2 years and living with for about 18 months. The problem is this, right when our relationship started I herniated a disc in my back and she took it upon herself to move in and help me out. I am already divorced and dint want to get back into that situation. We genuinely cared for ech other and she made a huge connection with my 5 and 8 year old daughters whom i have custody of 50% of the time. Well the fact is 4 or 5 months ago I tried to break up with her and it was a huge deal and i made the promise to try and work on it with her and see if we could fix what I thought was wrong. Well here it is months later and I am just not 'in-love' with her anymore. We have an okay time together and I know she would take great care of me and my children alike forever, but I just dont have that spark. So my question is , its almost like a divorce all over but she hasnt doen anything wrong. I dont want to throw her out on the streets but its my house and leaving is not an option for me and the kids. So , how do i tactfully tell her I want to break up and have her move out. I just dont have the interest in the relationship anymore and want to end it. Help me please, I feel I should do it sooner than later. Thanks in advance for your help guys
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted February 28, 2005 Posted February 28, 2005 When you decided to work on the relationship did you really try? Did she? Did you two talk about things that needed to be worked on to make it better? Whether you did or didn't, you need to have another talk. Explain to her that either you tried since you last talked about it and it isn't working; Or tell her that your heart wasn't in it to try and make it work and give her the reasons. As for your girls, if they are really attached to this lady that will make it more difficult, but you can't keep her around just for the kids. I can't offer advice on what to tell them, but would recommend NOT living with someone to whom you are not committed in marriage. For the sake of the children make sure you are married so that they understand what relationships should be about.
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