Vero Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 (edited) My junior year has started, and I was excited to see what kind of people I would meet, particularly girls. I've been in one relationship and it's been a while since it broke my heart, but I've decided that now that times are different and I am meeting new people, I'll have a chance at a girlfriend. I go up to my group of friends the first day of school and this girl that I've known as a friend for a while excitedly says my name and hugs me. I, not having been in a relationship for a while, am shocked that a girl likes me (I'm 100% sure she does; no need to explain the rest of the scenarios). There's a problem. I don't think I'm attracted to her too much physically. I KNOW when I'm attracted to a girl, and I'm not feeling it too much with her. I think I was so shocked about a girl liking me that I didn't pay much attention to her or anyone else. I know how it feels to be judged by how you look, but don't call me ignorant when I say that I'm not attracted to her physically. I don't want to give her a half hearted commitment or anything like that. The reason in making this is because lately I've seen a girl I am really attracted to in French class that I think MIGHT like me (I haven't gotten the chance to talk to her). I don't know if she likes me, but today when I walked into class, she looked at me and gave me a very warm smile and I reciprocated. She also looked at me when I was talking to my friend across from me and she gave the same stare and smile as before. I've gotten my hopes up over things like this so many times (Just check my posts) so I'm not going to get hung up over it. I'm pretty damn confident though. That's not an issue anymore. Anyway, should I forget about the second girl and go for the first? Or go for the hot second girl? I honestly want to do the latter, but I've been let down so many times with "high quality" girls that I just want to forget about it altogether. And I don't want to disappoint the first girl. Thanks. Edited August 13, 2014 by Vero
jjtr Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 My junior year has started, and I was excited to see what kind of people I would meet, particularly girls. I've been in one relationship and it's been a while since it broke my heart, but I've decided that now that times are different and I am meeting new people, I'll have a chance at a girlfriend. I go up to my group of friends the first day of school and this girl that I've known as a friend for a while excitedly says my name and hugs me. I, not having been in a relationship for a while, am shocked that a girl likes me (I'm 100% sure she does; no need to explain the rest of the scenarios). There's a problem. I don't think I'm attracted to her too much physically. I KNOW when I'm attracted to a girl, and I'm not feeling it too much with her. I think I was so shocked about a girl liking me that I didn't pay much attention to her or anyone else. I know how it feels to be judged by how you look, but don't call me ignorant when I say that I'm not attracted to her physically. I don't want to give her a half hearted commitment or anything like that. The reason in making this is because lately I've seen a girl I am really attracted to in French class that I think MIGHT like me (I haven't gotten the chance to talk to her). I don't know if she likes me, but today when I walked into class, she looked at me and gave me a very warm smile and I reciprocated. She also looked at me when I was talking to my friend across from me and she gave the same stare and smile as before. I've gotten my hopes up over things like this so many times (Just check my posts) so I'm not going to get hung up over it. I'm pretty damn confident though. That's not an issue anymore. Anyway, should I forget about the second girl and go for the first? Or go for the hot second girl? I honestly want to do the latter, but I've been let down so many times with "high quality" girls that I just want to forget about it altogether. And I don't want to disappoint the first girl. Thanks. You're not attracted to girl number one and don't want to give her a half-hearted commitment. So what exactly are you asking us about? It sounds to me like you want to the perks/comforts of a relationship, but would prefer it with the hot girl. I'm not going to pretend like physical attraction isn't important, but don't be that guy. It's not fair to the first girl.
Author Vero Posted August 14, 2014 Author Posted August 14, 2014 You're not attracted to girl number one and don't want to give her a half-hearted commitment. So what exactly are you asking us about? It sounds to me like you want to the perks/comforts of a relationship, but would prefer it with the hot girl. I'm not going to pretend like physical attraction isn't important, but don't be that guy. It's not fair to the first girl. I am not "that guy". I'm the last person to judge people , and I seek to find someone who is genuine. I couldn't care less about the "super hot popular girls" at my school because they are snobby, spoiled, shallow, and/or have 20 guys in line for them and I'm not about to be another one waiting (don't mean to stereotype so harshly, but you get my point). It always seems like I'm caught between a rock and a hard place with girls. Either they aren't THAT attractive to me with good personalities, or they look good and have nasty personalities. What am I doing wrong with finding a girl? My standards can't possibly be THAT high. I'm not looking for a model... Second girl seems to have a really good personality also..
carhill Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 Assuming junior in high school, both girls. Explore as many aspects of interpersonal relationships as possible. It's all good information for your future. 1
slizl Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 It's funny how you think "high-quality" equates to good looking. When you get a bit older, you will realize that you were completely wrong.
Author Vero Posted August 14, 2014 Author Posted August 14, 2014 It's funny how you think "high-quality" equates to good looking. When you get a bit older, you will realize that you were completely wrong. I'm talking from the point of view of most high school guys. Any good looking girl is "high quality" to them, hence the quotation marks. If I only wanted to get with a good looking girl right now I wouldn't be posting on here.
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