Ex or the new boyfriend?

[completelyconfused07]

Recently broke up with boyfriend about 4 months ago.

Was never a good relationship, we just did everything together, I just loved how he understood me how no one else could & I connected with him in a way I don't think I could with a person again. Though I completely love being in a new relationship with someone I know will never hurt me. My ex hurt me, realized he did & is all sorry for it. But I know my guy now would never put me in that situation to begin with. My ex constantly wants me back, but how do I move on without thinking I'm leaving something behind? I feel so guilty, I tried for so long and then he finally wanted to show me he cares & I'm gone. I do think I truly loved him, but I don't think I ever could, or I would want to again. I can't unsee what he's done to me, and I can't forgive & I'm so angry with some of our situations still. I'm being selfish & I'm scared to see him with someone new. Yet I'm completely content with my new relationship & I don't want to mess this one up.

What do I do? Or how do I get closure on this ex.

[Omei]

You re-read the post you just made describing how it wasn't a good relationship over and over then pick the obvious answer.

[sly_fly1]

it takes 2 to fight , argue, excetra,. instead of only thinking what he did wrong in the relationship, maybe you should think about the things you did too. did you ever hurt him too? alot can happen in a relationship, good and bad, usually its mostly good, if you guys got into a fist fight. n he punched you. well , stuff happens in the heat of the moment. if he planned on beating you down, well thats first degree. which i doubt he did. maybe he cheated on you too. like i said , though , planning on doing something and doing it in the heat of the moment are too different things. you got alot to think about, but its not fair to the new guy, unless if the new guy manipulated you into leaving the old guy, then in that case dump the new guy n for the old guy.