Darren2013 Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 Now we live in an age where most people communicate through cellphones. It is much harder to reach anyone through landline home phones these days. We also live in a time where people are busy running to this place or that place and may not have time to answer their cellphone when they receive a call. It seems like text message communication is more convenient. Therefore it can be a good way to rule out the other person's interest. In other words if I send a text message to a woman and I don't get a reply then is that proof positive she isn't interested? Do text messages always get through or can there be technical problems with a phone that keep it from getting through sometimes? Also how long after sending a text do I give her the benefit of the doubt before concluding that she just wasn't interested? I mean people can't always reply right away to a text so how long is considered a reasonable time to wait for a reply? Also there are times when there's a lag on my end in receiving a text from someone. I remember times in the past when my phone would beep with a text at 5pm but the text says the time they sent it was 1pm. So with the technical factor potential is this really the easiest way to rule out interest?
d0nnivain Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 Texting is not the best way to gauge interest. It may be the most convenient. I'd give it at least 24 hours, more over a holiday. Nobody is expected to get right back to you on Christmas. Calls on still superior to texts
Author Darren2013 Posted August 13, 2014 Author Posted August 13, 2014 I wouldn't even send a text to a woman I am interested in on Christmas or other holidays or on Fridays or Saturdays because I don't want her to know I'm thinking about her on those days.
Snakechammah Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 I wouldn't even send a text to a woman I am interested in on Christmas or other holidays or on Fridays or Saturdays because I don't want her to know I'm thinking about her on those days. That's totally mind games, dude. 1
Gaeta Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 It happened to me that my text didn't make it or made it to the other person hours later. Also not all phones are 'emotion' compatible, so if I'd send smiles and laughs to someone using a iphone (I have an android) they would not get anything. I consider 1 day long enough to get to my text. Nowadays we use our phone for everything, emails, texts, calls, notes, music, games, I don't believe a person would not look at their phone for 24 hours.
Author Darren2013 Posted August 13, 2014 Author Posted August 13, 2014 That's totally mind games, dude. It isn't about playing games it is about being careful not to come on to a woman too heavy. Being honest doesn't mean I have to let her know about all the times I think about her. Some things are better kept concealed especially in the early stages of dating and especially when I haven't even gotten to the first date with her yet.
d0nnivain Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 If you like somebody it's OK to text Merry Christmas or whatever holiday. Mine was an extreme example but on holidays you can't expect somebody to get right back to you.
eching Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 If she doesn't respond, that's a tell-tale sign that she's not interested. Don't keep texting her after that or she'll just get more and more apathetic! And as for technical problems with the phone, it's way more likely that she's just choosing to subtly tell you something than the phone malfunctioning.
aprilisi Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 As a woman I would love to get a text on a holiday for a man I'm interested in. That's one thing that broke up my last relationship. He knew I had no family, how rough the hollidays were. Didn't hear anything for 4 days becaus he was with his family. He showed me he didn't care enough to even wish me a happy holiday. Anyway, texting is horrible at gauging interest. I have carried on convos with men I felt nothing for, just to give it a chance. Its possible she's like me and hates texting early in dating. Give her time to answer. If she does maybe you can try calling her.
preraph Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 If you text someone and they don't respond, don't ever text again. Don't sit around waiting for the text. Just keep living your life. There is more angst on this board about unreturned texts. The answer is always the same: If they don't text back, stop trying to contact them. 1
SummerLuvR Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 Texts aren't reliable. I have experienced this first hand. I don't think you should initiate any relationship or gauge interest with a text. If you want to ask someone out, just call them. Leave a message if you must. After you have started dating, you can use texts as a quick way to let someone know you are thinking about them. I don't think you should make or break a relationship on whether or not a text was made or responded to. RANT:: JMHO, some people should just grow a spine and make a damn call. ::RANT OVER
Sweetnothing Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 It depends on the patterns. If a guy goes from texting me back within the hour to taking the whole day to reply I know something's wrong. It takes 30 seconds to shoot a text. If he can't spare 30 seconds then he's not interested. Most guys my age have their phones with them 24 hours a day. This isn't a hard and fast rule though. There are still people who prefer in-person communication. It's best to gauge what's normal for a specific person. 1
jay1983 Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 If she's interested she'll text back within a few.
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