Wisecrack Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 Maybe it is because of my dry streak and lack of success lately. Maybe it's because she is so different - her independancy is like a challenge to me when I've normally dated girls who have been more openly communicating and chasing. Maybe at the end of all this, she is actually secretly seeing some other guy or not interested. I don't care regardless. Someone please just help me with tips so I can stop thinking about her. I can't concentrate, fatigue from sports and working out make it even harder to do things. I have a mountain of work piling up but I just keep procrastinating. Ironically my friend even says after all your hard work thinking, everything will end up turning out alright. It's not her, it's me. Someone help me please. I know she likes me but if I continue down this road, it looks bleak.
d0nnivain Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 Give into thinking about her for some short time -- 10 minutes -- then say to yourself time to get back to work.
Zippy2000 Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 Here`s a tip. Ask her out. She says "no" Then stop thinking about her. Rapid! 1
Assasda Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 For some reason I persoanlly cant understand this. She's a person like everyone else. Do you usually obsess about people?
preraph Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 You've got to pull yourself together. You may have impulses now that you're not used to, but impulses are made to be tamped down in situations like this because if you do what your impulse tells you, it won't end up good. You'll probably calm down eventually once you stop thinking she might be the perfect girl. None of them are the perfect girl once you know them long enough to find out. They're just people and people have flaws. For now, just make sure you don't overcontact her. Only contact after she's contacted back. Don't go looking for reassurance by contacting too much like so many people do. It's like: Do you like me? Do you still like me? It's been 3 days. Do you still like me? It's been 3 days and 2 hours. Do you still like me? There's no coming back from that. Use self-discipline here. Now's the time to learn it if you never have before. She will keep. If she really likes you and you disappeared for a year, she'd still like you a year from now. If she doesn't like you that much, then it's only a matter of time anyway and nothing you can do will change that but freaking out and overdoing things will only escalate it ending. Pace yourself. Do not make any declarations until months from now. Remember everyone is best when they're first dating someone and the ugly comes out over time. So don't rush it. But enjoy it.
aphroditescupid Posted August 16, 2014 Posted August 16, 2014 Personally, I feel that strong independent women are the ones that need love and affection the most. Clearly, the fact that she is different is making you obsess over her. Be a man and ask her out and have real intimate conversations. If she likes you she will communicate with you. But it won't happen if you don't give her a chance. You have to push a little bit with independent girls. Show some effort. It's sad when two people really like each other but do nothing about it and it ends up going nowhere. Life is too short. If you can't stop thinking about her, go and get her. 4
Supernatural Posted August 16, 2014 Posted August 16, 2014 Ask her out. Go for it. If she rejects, move on. Like someone before me said; she's just a person. Just don't reject yourself, because of what happens to you in life.
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