JHparkes Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 Ok so there is this doctor I work for and I am his secretary. I know he is single as I have checked out on facebook LOLI only see him twice every two weeks. He has worked here since april time. Anyways he came and sat with us in the canteen and he was very jokey. After that he would not stop emailing and calling me that afternoon. Shortly after that he sent me a message asking if he’d left his mobile at the hospital and could I keep it safe for him. I emailed him back to say I had found it and not to worry I would keep it safe – he replied that “You are an angel!”. Whenever I would go into see him to take work I would be very nervous and blush. He would always ask how I am and make conversation. I have seen him looking at my legs as I walked off. One time I went in there we had a conversation about nothing really – he said you like garlic don’t you? And I went bright red and said yes!! And I put my hands over my mouth in horror at the thoughts he had smelt it and he said “that’s ok, cause I love the smell of garlic” then we had a conversation about what kind of food he likes and what food I likes. Then there was a silence where we were both struggling to think what to say and we were kind of looking into each other eyes for what seemed like ages but probably wasn’t, and just smiling. As I walk out of the office I had a big grin on my face and went to turn round to shut the door and he was behind going to shut the door too with a slight smirk on his face. He went on holiday after that so didn’t see him for three weeks. He has come back and I asked him about a work related matter, and then said I had loads of work for him when he gets over to here – he said he will look forward to it. And I said “I bet you will haha” and he said “yes, I am a work-a-holic and I like the smell of garlic!” help, I have a right crush on him…..does he fancy me or is he just a flirt??
stillafool Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 To be honest, he just sounds friendly to me. Since you both are single you will know he has a crush on you if he asks you out on a date. Good luck.
PegNosePete Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 I would very much not recommend dating a doctor if you are his secretary. It could lead to some very bad situations, most of which involve you losing your job. A secretary is much easier to replace than a doctor. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 I have those types of chats/emails with a lot of male co-workers. None are single though so your case might be different. Sounds like meaningless banter to me. 1
Author JHparkes Posted August 13, 2014 Author Posted August 13, 2014 I have those types of chats/emails with a lot of male co-workers. None are single though so your case might be different. Sounds like meaningless banter to me. I think you are both right - there is a tendency to read to much into every little word and gesture when you have a big crush on someone must cool my jets. I also have noticed I am slightly addicted to the 'high' feeling that comes with crushing on someone. 1
SycamoreCircle Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 I do the same thing with women I work with who I find cute but wouldn't necessarily consider dating. It's a power thing. This guy knows he is in an attractive position and so he carefully words and enacts scenarios that titillate his female co-workers. It's flirtation. He's reading you to see how much he can make your senses reel. Power thing. 1
Author JHparkes Posted August 13, 2014 Author Posted August 13, 2014 I do the same thing with women I work with who I find cute but wouldn't necessarily consider dating. It's a power thing. This guy knows he is in an attractive position and so he carefully words and enacts scenarios that titillate his female co-workers. It's flirtation. He's reading you to see how much he can make your senses reel. Power thing. OMG, that makes me feel very foolish indeed lol. So he knows I must be into and is basically having a laugh, right?
SycamoreCircle Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 Well, I don't know that for certain. And if it is that---I doubt that he's "laughing" at you. He wants you to find him charming and irresistible. It's just that ultimately he's not going to be considering your feelings. Largely, I think I do it because of a terrible break up I went through. I want to feel loved, cherished and appreciated by women but have no one. Is that the case with him? I don't know. It could be any number of things. I'll say this when I was in what I thought to be a loving relationship I didn't care to "activate" women around me. I let them be. But people are different. My advice to you---manage your feelings. We don't have the ability to control others, only ourselves.
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