scarface Posted February 27, 2005 Posted February 27, 2005 before continuing...you have to promise not to laugh ... ... ... ... ... ok now that we have that down, i need your guys help. i want to ask this girl out but i don't know how to do it...i have never really asked a girl out and the one time i tried it didn't work out too well....what should i say? what should we do? awwwww help!
Merin Posted February 27, 2005 Posted February 27, 2005 1) Don't allow one past negative experience drive you. 2) Be Confident.. why the hell wouldn't she want to date you right! 3) Don't trip on what if she says no.. the world won't end. 4) ASK
Author scarface Posted February 27, 2005 Author Posted February 27, 2005 Originally posted by Merin 4) ASK how? lol.
Merin Posted February 27, 2005 Posted February 27, 2005 Originally posted by scarface how? lol. What does she like to do? What are her interest?
westernxer Posted February 27, 2005 Posted February 27, 2005 Just go up and say, for example, "I'm going to check out ----------- this Thursday night. Wanna go with me?" Or invite her on a group/double date or some sort of get-together at someone's house, since it'll take some of the pressure off you. Plus you can see if the two of you click on some level. Just remember that "no" is always a possibility, regardless of who you are. But that's okay... you can always ask someone else. The key is having a short-term memory.
Hund1976 Posted February 27, 2005 Posted February 27, 2005 Just go up to her and say "hey I think you're cute let's go out sometime" If you already talk to her a lot just bring something up like "have you ever eaten at ____ restaurant. Then as long as she doesn't say "yeah and I got food poisoning!!!" then ask her to go with you sometime.
Author scarface Posted February 27, 2005 Author Posted February 27, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer The key is having a short-term memory. lol so true....if only i had one Originally posted by Hund1976 If you already talk to her a lot just bring something up like "have you ever eaten at ____ restaurant. Then as long as she doesn't say "yeah and I got food poisoning!!!" then ask her to go with you sometime. yeah i do talk to her on the phone sometimes....but the problem is i wouldn't know where to go....i mean the "cool" place to hang out is our local theater but movie dates are so...old...i dunno...maybe go to a movie might not be a bad idea what do you think?
Hund1976 Posted February 27, 2005 Posted February 27, 2005 The thing about a movie is you don't really have the opportunity to talk much, which could be a good or a bad thing. But if you're already talking to her on the phone then talking a lot on the first date might not be as important as if it was a girl you didn't know as well. Anyway if that's what you want to do pick a movie and ask her to go see it with you. Go see that new John Travolta movie next weekend, that looks funny.
Author scarface Posted February 27, 2005 Author Posted February 27, 2005 Originally posted by Hund1976 The thing about a movie is you don't really have the opportunity to talk much, which could be a good or a bad thing. But if you're already talking to her on the phone then talking a lot on the first date might not be as important as if it was a girl you didn't know as well. Anyway if that's what you want to do pick a movie and ask her to go see it with you. Go see that new John Travolta movie next weekend, that looks funny. i was thinking the new movie man of the house with tommy lee jones...she said she wants to see it and it looks funny but my main Q is how do i make sure she knows i think of it as a "date" instead of just hanging out because if you had read my last posts we already saw a movie and i think she saw it as hanging out
Hund1976 Posted February 27, 2005 Posted February 27, 2005 Well you can treat her more like a date when you go out, hold doors for her and stuff like that. Treat her like you would a date and not a friend, that is probably less awkward then having to say "do you want to go to the movies, as a DATE!!!" or something like that.
Author scarface Posted February 27, 2005 Author Posted February 27, 2005 Originally posted by Hund1976 Well you can treat her more like a date when you go out, hold doors for her and stuff like that. Treat her like you would a date and not a friend, that is probably less awkward then having to say "do you want to go to the movies, as a DATE!!!" or something like that. lol...true...any other tips?
westernxer Posted February 27, 2005 Posted February 27, 2005 Oh, so you're already friends... why didn't you say this earlier?
Author scarface Posted February 27, 2005 Author Posted February 27, 2005 i dunno... we have only known each other for a week so i wouldn't consider us "good" friends plus if she turns me down...which she might...i might apply any advice you guys give me to someone else that i have thinkin about askin out.
westernxer Posted February 27, 2005 Posted February 27, 2005 It's only been a week, so no need to push it. Just stay cool when you're with her. Trust me, if she likes you she'll let you know. Just don't say too much or be too formal about your intentions. Stay loose and flirt a little, just to see if she flirts back. It'll show her how fun you are, and she'll look forward to the next time you hang out, provided she's into it. Give it a couple more "dates," then make a decision. No need to sell her on the let's-date-for-real idea. You've already spoken several times... sounds like you're doing fine.
Author scarface Posted February 27, 2005 Author Posted February 27, 2005 true /\/\/\/\/\/\/\/\/\/\ i think ill just hang out with her some more....
Hund1976 Posted February 27, 2005 Posted February 27, 2005 Make sure you don't just act like she's one of the guys when you hang out. Or she'll start to put you into the "he's just a friend category" if you've only known her a week you're in good shape, just make the times when you're hanging out seem more like dates then just friends hanging out. Don't wait to long to make a move either, if she's interested in you she'll be hoping you make one and if you hang out with her multiple times with nothing romantic happening she might give up on you and stop thinking about you romantically.
Numb Posted February 27, 2005 Posted February 27, 2005 Ask her if she wants to get a pizza and f**k and if she says no then ask why "you don't like pizza". If she says ya then your golden and hopefully she has money for the pizza.
Author scarface Posted February 27, 2005 Author Posted February 27, 2005 Originally posted by Numb Ask her if she wants to get a pizza and f**k and if she says no then ask why "you don't like pizza". If she says ya then your golden and hopefully she has money for the pizza. for some reason that doesn't seem like something that i would do...lol
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