ton123 Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 (edited) I'm going to make this as short as i can. I need help and I cnt get my mind off of her. I have been dating my ex gf for 3 years. I have a problem with her mom because she is not stable mentally. We got into some nasty fights but we ended up being great with each other. so her mom throws another bitch fit and i start arguing with my ex gf. She texts me on friday morning telling me that this isn't working out and we go on texting each other back and forth. Than she says sorry and I love you. We were supposed to hang out that night and she never contacted me. her mom contacts me instead and says she can't talk right now. After i went nuts and changed my number delete all our pics from instagram. I send her an email telling her this: Me:I don't know what happened to you all of a sudden but the way you did things and left me hanging was very childish. How can you run away from your problems and how can you ignore my phone calls. i told her happy birthday. her: I wasn't ignoring you i was throwing up and really sick. You were great to me and I will never stop loving you. But for now i need ME time. Hopefully one day we will talk after all we have been together for 3 years. But if this continued it would end bad and would be much worst in the furtuere, Please take it easy. Her:I can't face you because it will kill me you never intentionally did anything wrong to hurt me it just came to a point where it needed a break I care for you dearly nd i love you dearly but i am drained it just became one thing after another in my heart and in my head it got overwhelming.sometimes they say if you love something let it of I'm doing this for our good. you have to concentrate on your and school and i have to on with life. Me:I agree Her:I hope you do. I didn't do this to **** u over i would never do this. I need time to be realistic . I know we were happy but it was ongoing issues and it wouldn't change please good luck and be good at everything you do. Me: I understand I agree I'm busy right now i can't talk let me know if you need anything bye. Her: Ill always love you just know that I will be here for you. and we will talk sometime whenever its right. Me. Ive spent 3 years waiting for you and dealing with your personal problems. Now I'm going to spend my energy on those who matter. Donr bother calling. after this i went no contact its been 8 days. I don't know what to do I love her so much and i didn't want to fight and make myself look needy and desperate. btw i have always been there for her anytime she asked. I have gave her my 100 percent. I did everything for her supported her finically, mentally, Physically. I treated her like a queen.Do you think she will contact me ? Edited August 13, 2014 by ton123
Philosoraptor Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 She's a nutter and is probably out banging someone else. Why in the world would you want her back? You've been dealing with her issues for 3 years... that's no way to have a relationship. There are many girls out there who would truly appreciate being treated like a "queen" as you say. Take your time, heal up, and find someone more stable. To answer your question, yes she will come back. Nutjobs always do. If you take her back you will be caught in this cycle where she will leave when she pleases (often to test the waters with other guys) then she will come back if it doesn't work out. Don't make the mistake of taking her back. 1
Ajen Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 If she's said she needs time then allow her to have some space. But she may be thinking of you also, so if you want to test the waters send her a message but nothing to deep, something like "Hey, how are you, feeling any better?" or similar. If she has said she needs time maybe she doesn't want to have deep discussions about her feelings, I think as well with someone who has a mother who is mentally unstable she has an added pressure that you or I wouldn't have. For now the best thing to do would be to approach her as a friend show her that you are there for her, but don't be there all the time. You really need to take sometime for yourself to focus on school and other things that may interest you.
Chi townD Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 Yeah, it sucks to say this, but you need to let her go. She's more than ready to cut you loose. So, why would you want to hang around someone that doesn't want you. Point is, she made a choice and that is to have you out of her life. So, you give her exactly that. You are not her friend. So, don't get sucked into the friendzone. Heal and move on from this. Ensure that you block her on facebook.
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