guy23 Posted February 27, 2005 Posted February 27, 2005 how has NC worked for people who have gone through breakups. I havd a 13 month relationship and have been broken up for 5 months. she has a new boyfriend yet still calls me and wants to be friends. i stayed in contac hoping to show her what she was missing out on. it is killing me though. i have tried breaking off ciontact several times yet she keeps calling or i keep calling. I keep wanting to stay friends and hopefully persuade her to like me again. no matter what i do or say to her i always regret it. i'm going crazy.
Pocky Posted February 27, 2005 Posted February 27, 2005 She has a new boyfriend. The relationship is over. She has made her decision and does not want to be with you. If having contact with her torments you emotionally then you should implement no contact. No contact allows you the opportunity to move forward without constant reminders of your past relationship with this woman. Tell her you think it's best that you don't talk any more so that both of you can successfully move forward with your lives. If she doesn't respect your wishes, then change your telephone number and stop calling her. All you're doing is prolonging your agony and the amount of time it takes to get past the emotional stress caused by the break up. 1
katty Posted February 27, 2005 Posted February 27, 2005 I have been using nc since Oct. and I use to think of reasons every day that I needed to talk to my ex, none of these were really reasons just excuses. I stayed strong and that urge did pass. I thought nc was suppose to make them miss me or at least make me think of him less but I still think of him on a daily basis. I am afraid that I will never love like that again. We live 3 hours away from each other so we have no reason to bump into one another. He got engaged less than 3 months after our breakup. It kills me now to not know if he is now married, still engaged, etc. I know I shouldn't care about these things but my heart forgot to turn itself off when he said goodbye. I never give into the urge to talk to him and I now realize that I will never hear from him ever again and I am trying to deal with that. Anyways you ask about the nc experience so I thought I would share my nc experience. I will sadly admit that I still pray each night that he will call me someday but I know I am just fooling myself. Stay strong. Kat
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