xxJuliexx Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 I called my friend his name is Danny. He told me to come over, and that him and his friend (Ryan) are at his house, he said to call his friend's phone cause his phone is about to die. So I called his friend's phone and his friend was flirting with me, and then Danny said in the background "Let me talk to her, get off the phone" all mad haha. Then he said "I'm home now so you don't have to call his phone" Then a couple days have passed, and Danny calls my guy friend and says "Is Julie talking to Ryan?" He was all concerned if I was talking to Ryan, but why would he care if he has a girlfriend? Why would he get mad when his friend was flirting with me? I don't get it cause he has a girlfriend, so I don't know why he is so concerned with me talking to his friend anyways. It's really none of his business if we are.
Dork Vader Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 Sounds like he likes you more then a friend. 1
Assasda Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 Because he's insecure. And he has small microscopic balls. 1
Author xxJuliexx Posted August 13, 2014 Author Posted August 13, 2014 Because he's insecure. And he has small microscopic balls. Hahahaha! Nice!
Author xxJuliexx Posted August 13, 2014 Author Posted August 13, 2014 Yeah probably guys, but he has a girlfriend...so...you would think he actually wouldn't care if I was trying to find love myself! lol.
Raena Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 Then he's keeping you on the back burner in the hopes that you'll still be available if it doesn't work out with his gf. He doesn't want you dating his friend because that means you and he could never date (in most instances anyhow). Either way, he doesn't see you as just a friend. Probably best to pull back some and not hang out with him all the time. The only other option is... maybe he knows that his friend is a jerk and doesn't want you dating him because of it. 2
Author xxJuliexx Posted August 13, 2014 Author Posted August 13, 2014 Then he's keeping you on the back burner in the hopes that you'll still be available if it doesn't work out with his gf. He doesn't want you dating his friend because that means you and he could never date (in most instances anyhow). Either way, he doesn't see you as just a friend. Probably best to pull back some and not hang out with him all the time. The only other option is... maybe he knows that his friend is a jerk and doesn't want you dating him because of it. hmmm...yeah! Well every guy is "bad" for me lol. He is always saying this and that guy is a loser and is "douchebag" Yet he isn't though when he tried to hookup with me. Good points Raena!
Raena Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 If EVERY guy is bad for you then yeah, he's definitely jealous and wants you to himself. I had a guy friend like that... he's still my friend nearly 20 years later. You have to draw the boundary lines VERY clear for him though if you want to continue being friends with him. I mean VERY clear... as in "we will never be anything more than friends" said directly to him, over and over again. If he can't handle it, then you may need to stop hanging out with him.
Author xxJuliexx Posted August 13, 2014 Author Posted August 13, 2014 If EVERY guy is bad for you then yeah, he's definitely jealous and wants you to himself. I had a guy friend like that... he's still my friend nearly 20 years later. You have to draw the boundary lines VERY clear for him though if you want to continue being friends with him. I mean VERY clear... as in "we will never be anything more than friends" said directly to him, over and over again. If he can't handle it, then you may need to stop hanging out with him. Oh! Maybe. I didn't think of that....I never did make myself clear on our friendship. Your guy friend was like that too? How did you keep the friendship? Did he understand that you weren't interested and you both just remained friends?
Raena Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 Oh! Maybe. I didn't think of that....I never did make myself clear on our friendship. Your guy friend was like that too? How did you keep the friendship? Did he understand that you weren't interested and you both just remained friends? It didn't happen easily. He and I had many spats because of his inability to respect my boundaries or maybe I wasn't clear enough with him. I don't know. Eventually he found a girl that he really liked. She and I became very good friends too so that helped maintain the friendship in a healthy way. If you wish to remain friends with him, you'll have to make it clear to him what you want from him. Seems like he might think he has a chance with you because you haven't clearly told him what your expectations are. 1
Author xxJuliexx Posted August 13, 2014 Author Posted August 13, 2014 It didn't happen easily. He and I had many spats because of his inability to respect my boundaries or maybe I wasn't clear enough with him. I don't know. Eventually he found a girl that he really liked. She and I became very good friends too so that helped maintain the friendship in a healthy way. If you wish to remain friends with him, you'll have to make it clear to him what you want from him. Seems like he might think he has a chance with you because you haven't clearly told him what your expectations are. Yeah...you're right! That's good that your friendship worked out Thanks!!
marcjb Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 When will people understand that opposite gender frendships not truly platonic 99% of the time? There are pretty much always feelings involved from someone. 2
Strength in Healing Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 When will people understand that opposite gender frendships not truly platonic 99% of the time? There are pretty much always feelings involved from someone. Fact FACT FACT FACT FAAAACCCTTTTTT Hopefully the slow people will begin to understand this eventually. 2
Author xxJuliexx Posted August 13, 2014 Author Posted August 13, 2014 When will people understand that opposite gender frendships not truly platonic 99% of the time? There are pretty much always feelings involved from someone. I have lots and lots of guy friends whom I'm platonic with. I am ok with it being platonic
marcjb Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 I have lots and lots of guy friends whom I'm platonic with. I am ok with it being platonic You might not have feelings, but how do you know the other person doesn't? There have been so many instances, even just posted here on LS about someone's "friend" confessing their feelings ten years later, or they end up having sex, ect. Also, there is no such thing as platonic friendship with anyone someone's already been intimate with. This is why being "friends" with an ex, past fling, "friend" that someone was with "just one time" is absolute BS. 1
Strength in Healing Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 Julie why do I get the feeling you are still in High school? No offense... just saying...
Author xxJuliexx Posted August 14, 2014 Author Posted August 14, 2014 Julie why do I get the feeling you are still in High school? No offense... just saying... Lol, I am 20 years old. I am in college studying Biology But yes! I am a bit immature, aren't we all?
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