edgygirl Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 So I just been through a breakup 2 months ago and am still coping. Today I went to grab lunch around the corner of my new workplace and who do I see? The guy I was married for a short while whom I haven't seen live in... 5 years. I had to say hi. He was very polite and gracious, and told his friends to keep going. He told me about his work and asked about mine and if I'm still doing the same thing. He asked and I said my office had just moved to that area. We realized we work in the same area perhaps in the same block. He was so confident and asked so many questions it felt weird. I wasn't sure what I was supposed to say. I was still sleepy and not fully woken up even thought it was lunch time. So what is left to say? We don't talk about all the hurt and bad things that happened, do we? No. I didn't really think about them but at the same time I also didn't feel super cheerful as I am recently broken up... again. So I felt like it was time to get out of there and said: "I guess we'll be seeing each other around then". I extended my hand to say goodbye. He hugged me instead. It was so weird to feel his body after so long. I wonder if he noticed I'm quite thin and prob half the size of last time he saw me. I bet he did. His body felt the same. Not sure how I feel. It's as if I don't care anymore, but at the same time it was such a significant relationship that I've been feeling weird the whole day. I'm glad I bumped into him only after getting over our relationship. How do you guys feel when bumping into exes? How are we supposed to feel? 1
brokenlove14 Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 I've never bumped into one out of the blue. I have contact with one every now and then but feel very indifferent. Then very awkward when he gives me those I want you back looks.
letsplaygofish2 Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 I have never run into an ex of mine, but have seen them from afar. I wished my last ex would get hit by a bus, but that's just me. Sometimes there's really nothing left to say except, "Oh, it's you." I think a positive spin on this would be to say/think, "Thank you for coming into my life and teaching me ______". 2
JustSomeGuyHere Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 I've never been married but I imagine something like this would be very surreal. It sounds like you handled it well.
sly_fly1 Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 well all i gotta say is , You are in straight denial. you saw him, the guy you fell in love with, and he probably appears to be that confident guy once again. i think you probably do miss him and probably cant get him off your mind,. you do want him back, as you say you are over him, but most people who find this website are searching either , how to get my ex back, or what not, and if you take the sweet time to find answers, you clearly arnt over him. if i were you , id take a shot in the dark and contact him, who knows , maybe you 2 were meant to be after. coincidences and random occurances dont happen often, like bumping into him
Ordinaryday Posted August 14, 2014 Posted August 14, 2014 I dont ever want to see any of the women who dumped me ever again and if I ever see/saw them in public I have/will gone out of my way to avoid them at all costs. if they try to speak to me I will flat out say "don't speak to me" to them. I have no time whatsoever for a woman who dumped me and said I was not good enough to be with them, no time at all. 4
Author edgygirl Posted August 15, 2014 Author Posted August 15, 2014 LOL I am completely over my ex-husband (whom this post is about). I am surely not totally over the last guy I dated, whom I broke up with 2 months ago. Also I am not an occasional visitor to this site as you imply most people are... been here a long time, I find it a great outlet for people who are trying to find real love out there and are dating well all i gotta say is , You are in straight denial. you saw him, the guy you fell in love with, and he probably appears to be that confident guy once again. i think you probably do miss him and probably cant get him off your mind,. you do want him back, as you say you are over him, but most people who find this website are searching either , how to get my ex back, or what not, and if you take the sweet time to find answers, you clearly arnt over him. if i were you , id take a shot in the dark and contact him, who knows , maybe you 2 were meant to be after. coincidences and random occurances dont happen often, like bumping into him
Author edgygirl Posted August 15, 2014 Author Posted August 15, 2014 Totally understand your point and understand where you're coming from. I think deep down it felt life a mini revenge to have him see me looking much better than back then, and also by me saying hi, perhaps understanding I didn't care anymore. It was like finally closing a cycle that needed to be closed. In a weird way, it felt good somehow albeit uncomfortable and weird. I dont ever want to see any of the women who dumped me ever again and if I ever see/saw them in public I have/will gone out of my way to avoid them at all costs. if they try to speak to me I will flat out say "don't speak to me" to them. I have no time whatsoever for a woman who dumped me and said I was not good enough to be with them, no time at all.
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