guydownsouth Posted August 12, 2014 Share Posted August 12, 2014 How much should be spent? We've almost been dating for a year. I'm a grad student. I found a nice necklace for $125 and will take her out to dinner. How's that sound? Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted August 12, 2014 Share Posted August 12, 2014 (edited) Will she demand to see the receipt? I don't think there is a dollar value on it but it's about the gesture and doing something nice for her which she'll appreciate vs. X amount of dollars is suitable for an anniversary. You know her better than we do...is she the type who will appreciate the necklace and dinner? Don't worry about the price, just worry about planning a nice evening and giving a token she'll like. Edited August 12, 2014 by MissBee 4 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted August 12, 2014 Share Posted August 12, 2014 30 cent ice cream cones total value sixty cents..... and a walk along a pier....kiss at the end of it ...under moonlight...priceless.....ok im cheap.....but it really depends on the woman you are with and what she likes or really appreciates.........deb 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 12, 2014 Share Posted August 12, 2014 That wounds WAAAYYYY over the top especially considering you are a grad student. Dinner & mushy card should be fine. A cutesy gift -- stuffed animal etc. < $20 if you must buy a gift. However, given the # of women on message boards complaining that guys don't even recognize dating anniversaries, kudos to you for planning. Can I be your agent so I can hook you up to teach other men, classes in Romance 101? Given how desperately some guys need it, if you are willing to travel we might be able to pay your grad school tuition. lol 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Astrolink Posted August 13, 2014 Share Posted August 13, 2014 How much should be spent? We've almost been dating for a year. I'm a grad student. I found a nice necklace for $125 and will take her out to dinner. How's that sound? Give what you can afford. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Dork Vader Posted August 13, 2014 Share Posted August 13, 2014 Women really do not care what you spend. The women that do care what you spend are not worth your time. That said the vast majority really don't care if it was expensive. It's more about what you do.. Put thought into it.. Link to post Share on other sites
PogoStick Posted August 13, 2014 Share Posted August 13, 2014 How about you just go out on a date and tell her "Hey, this has been an amazing year and I'm so happy we're together." Link to post Share on other sites
acrosstheuniverse Posted August 13, 2014 Share Posted August 13, 2014 I don't see that a gift if necessary. People over-commercialise everything these days. Gifts for Christmas, Valentine's Day, Birthdays, Mother's/Father's/Grandpa's/Girlfriend's Days, for Easter, for Baby Showers and Bridal Showers, for Halloween, for Anniversaries, blah blah blah... is it really any indicator of love or appreciation? Something free and thoughtful would be amazing. I love jewellery as gifts because it's lovely to wear and think of the recipient, but past partners have got me $5 jewellery which I've been delighted with, and still wear. I have jewellery passed down from my Mother dying worth $3 from a drugstore and I cherish it as much as any Tiffany diamond necklace. It's nice to mark the occasion though so kudos for planning. A nice dinner to treat each other should be enough, maybe a card if you like that sort of thing or a bunch of flowers. I like the idea of treating each other by buying a joint purchase you'll both get use out of, for example for Christmas instead of buying each other gifts my boyfriend and I might go halves on a decent coffee machine for the apartment or something Link to post Share on other sites
Wisecrack Posted August 13, 2014 Share Posted August 13, 2014 Give her the gift of a memory. These things last much more than something artificial. Take her somewhere or something she has wanted to try then add a little romantic twist to it. Go bungee jumping and have a little picnic at a park next to it? Take her on a road trip for the day and find somewhere secluded to spend time together? I've found in the past, if I did something with a chick when she had a great time, she'll remember that and bring that back up next we meet as opposed to a bacelet I bought for her from some where whoop whoop etc. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted August 13, 2014 Share Posted August 13, 2014 Give what you can afford. Pretty much. If $125 is not gonna break the bank and you like the necklace and think she will too then go for it. But if it is gonna break the bank then you can definitely do dinner, flowers, something cheaper. Link to post Share on other sites
slizl Posted August 13, 2014 Share Posted August 13, 2014 I tend to go pretty big with presents. I am taking my gf of four months on a caribbean cruise next week for her bday. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
me85 Posted August 13, 2014 Share Posted August 13, 2014 This is absurd. You can't put a price on love. Link to post Share on other sites
marcjb Posted August 13, 2014 Share Posted August 13, 2014 That wounds WAAAYYYY over the top especially considering you are a grad student. Dinner & mushy card should be fine. A cutesy gift -- stuffed animal etc. < $20 if you must buy a gift. However, given the # of women on message boards complaining that guys don't even recognize dating anniversaries, kudos to you for planning. Can I be your agent so I can hook you up to teach other men, classes in Romance 101? Given how desperately some guys need it, if you are willing to travel we might be able to pay your grad school tuition. lol Last year around this time for my ex, I made reservations to the nicest returant looking over our city, bought her a new computer, and ended up proposing to her the very next month. What did this get me in return? An "I don't feel the same way about you anymore" the very next month after that. Meanwhile, my younger brother who acts very immature is "FWB" with these two girls, he treats them horrible, but both girls want a relationship with him. He doesn't want to commit to either for a relationship so they just keep being "FWB" with him. Apparently you treat someone amazing and they think less of you, and take you for granted. You treat someone like crap and they are puddy in your hands. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted August 13, 2014 Share Posted August 13, 2014 Last year around this time for my ex, I made reservations to the nicest returant looking over our city, bought her a new computer, and ended up proposing to her the very next month. What did this get me in return? An "I don't feel the same way about you anymore" the very next month after that. Meanwhile, my younger brother who acts very immature is "FWB" with these two girls, he treats them horrible, but both girls want a relationship with him. He doesn't want to commit to either for a relationship so they just keep being "FWB" with him. Apparently you treat someone amazing and they think less of you, and take you for granted. You treat someone like crap and they are puddy in your hands. This isn't true marcjb and neither is is really relevant to the question. One thing you need to learn: you will get your heart broken in dating but life goes on and it doesn't help to act like this is the rule or every woman or man will treat you that way. If you do believe that you're in for an unhappy life. I have had my share of heartbreaks and unfair treatment...but life went on and I'm with a good guy and if things should change...I'd be hurt but wouldn't try to advise other women to see all men as shyt because it's a lie. He and his gf are currently happy and no need to dump your bad situation into his thread when it doesn't answer his question. Link to post Share on other sites
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