triptop Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 My girlfriend of 2.5 years just broke up with me recently. Past couple months have not been the best. She started lying to me and going out/partying more. She finally told me about it and we had a long talk and she said I was what she wanted. We patched it up and started again but then she lied again last week. Last night she spoke to me and told me she sees a future and doesn't see herself with anyone else. She saw me as her husband but she doesn't see how we can get to that point. Said she checked out of the relationship 2 weeks ago. Just within that 2 week period she told me she knew I am the one she wants. I just don't understand if you feel so strongly that you let fighting get in the way. I am so beyond devastated. I had every intention of marrying her...
Griesfootball Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 She's gotta be talking to someone else the way she is going back and forth. I'd say sit back and she what she does.
Strength in Healing Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 She doesn't see a future, she is seeing someone else. Excommunicate the trash. 1
Author triptop Posted August 13, 2014 Author Posted August 13, 2014 Which is what I was worried about. I spoke in depth with her. She promised none of that is going on and that she is not interested in anyone else but me. Just hasn't been happy the past couple of weeks/month
Strength in Healing Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 Which is what I was worried about. I spoke in depth with her. She promised none of that is going on and that she is not interested in anyone else but me. Just hasn't been happy the past couple of weeks/month If I had a fraction of one penny for every time a dumper said something similar, I would rival an oil tycoon. Cut her off 100%, let her realize in time what she lost... 1
Author triptop Posted August 13, 2014 Author Posted August 13, 2014 Yeah I went NC. Since that conversation. There is a chance if I stay away that she'll wake up with the biggest regret and that'll she'll want me back?
Natsu21 Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 My girlfriend of 2.5 years just broke up with me recently. Past couple months have not been the best. She started lying to me and going out/partying more. She finally told me about it and we had a long talk and she said I was what she wanted. We patched it up and started again but then she lied again last week. Last night she spoke to me and told me she sees a future and doesn't see herself with anyone else. She saw me as her husband but she doesn't see how we can get to that point. Said she checked out of the relationship 2 weeks ago. Just within that 2 week period she told me she knew I am the one she wants. I just don't understand if you feel so strongly that you let fighting get in the way. I am so beyond devastated. I had every intention of marrying her... Dude, I can speak for everyone here that this screams typical G.I.G.S. behavior Partying, constant going back and forth, doesn't see a future, the whole "I love you but I'm not in love with you" speech. There's someone else in the picture. Go find out and then come back and we'll be right.
Natsu21 Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 Which is what I was worried about. I spoke in depth with her. She promised none of that is going on and that she is not interested in anyone else but me. Just hasn't been happy the past couple of weeks/month My ex said that. Was banging someone else behind my back. SIH is right, go pope-in-Vatican and excommunicate the CRAP outta her. 1
Natsu21 Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 Yeah I went NC. Since that conversation. There is a chance if I stay away that she'll wake up with the biggest regret and that'll she'll want me back? There's a CHANCE, but more than likely....not likely. My friend, she dumped you cause you weren't good enough for marriage with her, for the possibility of being someone who is. Look at it from that perspective, and don't let her string you along. Find your backbone and never come back to her.
Author triptop Posted September 14, 2014 Author Posted September 14, 2014 (edited) Well we met a week ago and it was going great. Thought we were going to get back together. Had a great talk and a great evening. Then she told me she just doesn't want a relationship. She is back to hanging with this group of friends again. Found out she is doing some drugs and partying with them. She said she was going to be selfish right now and "figure" out what she wants. I have not spoken to her since that night. I have removed her from FB and Instagram. I had a feeling she was getting back into coke and now she is back with that crowd again. (she stopped for awhile) She used to say she wanted to grow up but it looks like she is just as immature as ever. How could you leave someone of almost 3 years when they have so much going on in regards to the family fighting cancer. Someone in this thread said that I might not be what she wants for marriage. The fact is it seems like she is the one too immature for marriage. Just wants to live that single drug and party lifestyle. I really wish I could just flip that switch and really not like her but not going to lie it does suck. (Still confirms no one else and I really know she just wants freedom. She doesn't want a relationship she wants to talk to whoever do whatever whenever. So immature. After everything) Worst part is these friends treat her poorly after awhile and it will happen again. She will find out how shallow of a lifestyle it is after awhile. Edited September 14, 2014 by triptop
No Limit Posted September 14, 2014 Posted September 14, 2014 By the time she finds out, she'll have 3 kids by 5 different men. I'd recommend you to stay away from her. Move on.
Natsu21 Posted September 14, 2014 Posted September 14, 2014 (edited) Dude...she already mulled it over way before you were aware... And she's doing drugs? What are you? Her white knight? Come on man. I don't know WHY cheaters and dumpers use the same line. I need to "find myself" I even used it once, but in my defense, it was a long distance relationship and she didn't want to meet me. But I told her I wanted something physical so she can get the emotional from someone else. She's rebelling against her own conventions and sees you as a paperweight. Spin it anyway you want to but it boils down to this: she doesn't want you anymore. Think about this, if she DOES come back, you wanna know what's more than likely going to happen? She's gonna date, if she hasn't already. Trust me, she's seeing someone and isn't telling you. "I'm not ready for a relationship" is code name for "I want someone else." The guy she's chasing, or guys, are gonna use her for sex, she'll have a few kids, they'll find someone else, leave her behind, and she'll come knocking at your door with her kids and her sad pouty eyes, thinking that you'll buy her tears and help her raise her kids. ^This happens a lot more than you think. Don't be that guy. Go find someone better. Someone who is into you. Edited September 14, 2014 by Natsu21
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