bcnvicky Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 ...keeps following models on Instagram (or other social media)? So I met this guy, he'a 33 and I like him, we went on a few dates and have been talking a lot (at the moment I'm on a one month vacation so we can't see each other, but we texted every day and even SKYPED) and he seems really into me. BUT a couple of weeks ago, right after we started dating, we started following each other on Instagram. I always check in the newsfeed what the people I follow like on Instagram and who they start following (because sometimes I like the same pics, accounts etc.) and almost all I see about him is how he starts following models, like Victoria's Secret models and all other kind of models. He even liked two 'boob.s pictures' accounts. He likes another model profile like every third day (and he's been on Instagram for a while already). Out of curiosity I checked who he's actually following and the list of people who he's following consists of seriously 80% models (posting sexy pics all the time ofc) or hot Z-list actresses who post sexy pictures of theirselves. I'm kinda CONFUSED now. I don't like it at all when guys do that. I have nothing against a guy watching por.n or finding some model attractive, but being on Instagram mainly to follow models and to see hot pictures? For me that's kind of pathetic and I'm wondering if he really needs it or if he's really that shallow. I dunno. I mean I'm not jealous or so, I also appreciate seeing a hot guy or girl sometimes, but I don't need to follow hundreds of them on Instagram, just for the sake of seeing hot pictures of them. Of course I also don't want to tell him about this issue, he will think I'm stalking him or I'm crazy for telling him or whatever... I mean we're not even a couple. But if we were I'm sure he wouldn't just unfollow all those models for me pr not start to follow new ones. Would you date a guy like this or would you drop him like a hot potato?
Candy_Pants Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 There's nothing wrong with what he's choosing to use his Instagram account for. You two are simply incompatible. Drop him like a hot potato for both your sake's.
randomnerd Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 You could always let him know that it weirds you out but tbh he will probably continue to do it, maybe behind your back. It's his instagram account, he probably does that so he doesn't have to search them separately. If it bothers you, you should probably drop him. He probably wont change this. Should it bother you? Idk...depends on how much he's focused on it. If he's really into you though, I don't know if you should worry about it. He probably just likes to see these beautiful girls...as would most men.
Fondue Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 Every time I read a post on this website about social media I have to /facepalm. I can't believe these things are issues with people. Quit social media. It improves your life. 7
Elle1975 Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 It's not about what we would do, it's about what you would do, what you feel comfortable with. I dropped someone once who had cheated repetitively on his gf. I didn't feel comfortable with the behavior. If you aren't comfortable with him, then drop him. That's your choice, your life, and your own business. 1
SYLLPalmer Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 I am wondering how is this guy otherwise? If someone spends a preponderance of time engaged exclusively in the observation of simplistic images be it cars to flowers I imagine they don't bring a lot to conversation. He is caught up in superficial fantasy it seems. Sounds like a boring dude to me. Maybe not. While I know you stated you are not, jealousy is instinctual. Feeling jealous sucks but it has primitive protective mechanisms to the family unit. How much time do you want to spend feeling like your boy isn't invested is up to you. You have to take the action. If he is a stallar conversationalist and a wonderful lover then stop following him. If not dump his shallow ass.
Mike B. Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 Every time I read a post on this website about social media I have to /facepalm. I can't believe these things are issues with people. Quit social media. It improves your life. I should make this post my signature.
MissBee Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 Personally, I would be embarrassed if my bf was doing this. The type of men who follow mostly Instagram models and Boob accounts and worse comment on them aren't the type I'm into...they are certainly a type...a thirsty type. I watch porn every now and again but you won't catch me following a penis pic account or following male models. I watch those things in the privacy of my own spare time and not publicly on social media. I'm particular about my public image and also the public image of men I'm dating so wouldn't date someone who had no discretion and was doing things on social media that could potentially embarrass me. 5
d0nnivain Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 Let's dial it back to Old School You are basically asking if I would date a guy who watched TV or looked a magazine. These are images. Not personal connections. Who cares? So who he follows on Instagram would not even enter the equation about whether I'd date someone. 1
preraph Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 It is indeed pathetic when a guy is relying on porn or pictures of models on such a regular basis. There is nothing wrong with occasionally, but anything where you have consecutive days is a lot of wasted time thinking about what to do with your d**k and if nothing else is a clear indication where the guy's priorities lie. I prefer guys who are honing one of their other crafts and have a little more on their minds than that, personally. Plus assuming all goes well, one of these days he'd going to blurt out "You'd look really good with a boob job" so unless you're that girl, let someone else bag him while he grows up a bit.
Assasda Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 The guy like Ass and boobs - Someone call the newspapers!!! A lot of women can handle that. -OP for some reason, it seems you cant handle it OP You, are the crazy one here. you are not even a couple, and youre spying on a guy living his single life. Stop Snooping and work on your own insecurities
jay1983 Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 This is BS, women look at Sean o'pry and David Beckham and all kinds of sh*t like that.
PogoStick Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 You're bothered that the guy likes pictures of attractive women. Welp you better turn lesbian.
Astrolink Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 ...keeps following models on Instagram (or other social media)? So I met this guy, he'a 33 and I like him, we went on a few dates and have been talking a lot (at the moment I'm on a one month vacation so we can't see each other, but we texted every day and even SKYPED) and he seems really into me. BUT a couple of weeks ago, right after we started dating, we started following each other on Instagram. I always check in the newsfeed what the people I follow like on Instagram and who they start following (because sometimes I like the same pics, accounts etc.) and almost all I see about him is how he starts following models, like Victoria's Secret models and all other kind of models. He even liked two 'boob.s pictures' accounts. He likes another model profile like every third day (and he's been on Instagram for a while already). Out of curiosity I checked who he's actually following and the list of people who he's following consists of seriously 80% models (posting sexy pics all the time ofc) or hot Z-list actresses who post sexy pictures of theirselves. I'm kinda CONFUSED now. I don't like it at all when guys do that. I have nothing against a guy watching por.n or finding some model attractive, but being on Instagram mainly to follow models and to see hot pictures? For me that's kind of pathetic and I'm wondering if he really needs it or if he's really that shallow. I dunno. I mean I'm not jealous or so, I also appreciate seeing a hot guy or girl sometimes, but I don't need to follow hundreds of them on Instagram, just for the sake of seeing hot pictures of them. Of course I also don't want to tell him about this issue, he will think I'm stalking him or I'm crazy for telling him or whatever... I mean we're not even a couple. But if we were I'm sure he wouldn't just unfollow all those models for me pr not start to follow new ones. Would you date a guy like this or would you drop him like a hot potato? Would you rather he be watching gay porn? And you honestly would rather he was watching porn instead of clothed models?
Supernatural Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 It is a little weird and kind of boring that his use of Instagram is to follow hot babes... But I wouldn't read too deeply in to it.
MissBee Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 (edited) Do people not get that it's not about if a guy likes or wants to look at women...but the fact that he's using his social media profile, which unless private, ALL can see, to do this??? As I said I don't care if you watch porn or look at women or what have you but don't do it in a public format. Maybe if you have no job, no professional reputation to manage or anything then liking boob pictures and so on (which I've had to delete people off FB for because they don't realize that when they like those porn pages what they like pops up on my feed ) publicly doesn't matter....but for me and the work that I do it does as I can't have a bf publicly embarrassing me like that by his social media activities. And in 2014 what you do on social media matters, unless your page is anonymous. People get fired or otherwise bitten in the butt for dumb stuff they do online...so I would never date a man who didn't have sense enough to keep his social media tactful. I think this is what this boils down to, the fact that it's on Instagram and is out there and not the fact that he looks at women . This is also something I realize my generation and worse the one after doesn't get....if you wanna be sloppy drunk, have sex with 5 people, do whatever....okay great....why take pictures and videos of it? Why memorialize it on FB, IG etc? That's really dumb. Do what you do and don't leave any social media trail, simple. Edited August 13, 2014 by MissBee
Gaeta Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 It's one thing to look at magazines and porn in the intimacy of your home and it's another to show the world that you're hooked on boobs. He's in his 30s for goodness sake, he behaves as if he had just discovered boobs!!!! I would be embarrassed to be in a relationship with a man that spends his time publicly following boobs online like a teenage boy. 2
me85 Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 I never cared about any ex oogling over celebrities or models (famous people he'd never have a chance with) but when I found out my ex was saving hundreds of pictures of girls who weren't famous or anything that he saw on chive...uh ya, I had a MAJOR problem with that. I had a problem with chive all together after that. I'm so glad I'm not with that douchebag anymore.
MissBee Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 It's one thing to look at magazines and porn in the intimacy of your home and it's another to show the world that you're hooked on boobs. He's in his 30s for goodness sake, he behaves as if he had just discovered boobs!!!! I would be embarrassed to be in a relationship with a man that spends his time publicly following boobs online like a teenage boy. Exactly. Not sure about the OP but the PUBLIC aspect of it is what is embarrassing and immature not that he does it at all. My bf has pictures of some models on his phone...mostly models on cars, because cars are his thing. I don't care. He had it before me and it's not like he prefers it over me but more importantly it's on his PRIVATE phone...not on his social media profile for all to see. Why? Cause he isn't 15, he has some sense and a career and knows doing stuff like that online where other people can see it makes you look really stupid. 1
O'Malley Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 As it's already been said, it's normal to enjoy looking at attractive bodies, it's another to be salivating over them on social media like a squirming, horny teenager. Breast or c*ck lists seem a bit juvenile and pathetic. If he hasn't learned how to separate his private thoughts and public behaviors by his thirties, he likely isn't ever going to. 2
preraph Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 Too much of anything nonproductive is a big red flag that someone needs to get some direction in their life.
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