Jessica24S Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 Hi, A few months ago I started seeing this guy that I've known from work for a few years. We were together for about two months but one time a friend of a friend asked if he's my husband and he replied that we're friends. We used to text each other at least a few times a day but then one time I had already made plans so I told him we'd have to go out another time. After that he kind of backed off so I texted him twice after that and he never wanted to hang out and it felt like a brush off. I thought maybe I hurt him by bailing on him for our last date and I've pretty much been pining over him for two months. He's my first and I didn't want him to think that I'm crazy or attached so I didn't text him until a few days ago for his birthday. He replied and asked if I wanted to hang out so I said yes. I told him that I'm sorry for bailing on him and that I felt that he lost interest. He said that he thought I lost interest in him. I thought we were on good terms and I really do like him so we ended up having sex. He started talking about the last girl he was with, and I told him about the guy I liked a year ago and how he hurt me since he lied about being single but wasn't. Then on the way home he tells me he's been dating a girl from work, but that he recently broke up with her for a few reasons which he went into detail. I told him if he likes her he should be with her and he should do what's best for him but he kept saying no that it's over. The next day he texted me saying that it's hard because they work together and that he will let me know when the dust settles. I really need advice on what to do because I really like him and I don't want to be crying and feeling the way I am if he's done with me. A part of me is thinking he liked her enough to date her while I was just a friend and the other part wants to hold on and hope that he'll text.
Zahara Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 I think he's keeping you on the backburner until there's a conclusion between him and that girl. I have to wonder if he's still seeing her and had no issues having sex with you. I'm finding it hard to believe that he said he is broken up but after you have sex, then next day he's confused about the girl again. I don't have a good feeling about him. I would suggest you stop waiting for him to pick you or decide what he wants with that other woman and cut contact with this guy.
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