Lovebite Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 Hey, sorry about the excessive posting! I am making another one, cause I am not clear on what I am asking. I have been infatuated with my guy friend Steve for a long time now, but it's this constant back and forth game we play. He comes around and he shows me how interested he is and how much he likes me, he comes on strong, and then I don't show any interest cause I can't tell if he just wants to hookup with me. So then he backs off, cause I reject him, and then he seems to come back into my life somehow, and it's the same thing. He doesn't call me or text me much. He seems to have a girlfriend, but he didn't tell me that, but it seems pretty noticeable that he's in a relationship. I went over his house to buy weed for a friend, and at this point Steve hasn't seen me in 2 months. Steve was acting sexual with me and flirting, he also kept questioning about my date and seemed jealous as he usually is with every guy, and he even said "Ditch your date and come with me to a party" I said "No! You have a girlfriend!" He said "No I don't" Then I found in my purse a little note that said "Heather I love you sweetheart" I got stupid drunk with my date and texted Steve saying "I love you" Steve called me and said "Are you in love with that guy? Are you in love with your date?" "Come over my house! I am having a party, pelase come! You can stay here for the night, It'll be fun babygirl" I agreed to go but then I passed out and woke up to his text saying "Where are you?" I then text him saying "I am so embarrassed! I was so drunk and passed out! Bad night, sorry Steve <3" He never responded and I think he's mad. But now I heard from my dad that he talked to him and he might be coming over to do yard work, so I am not sure now. My friends say I am too "closed off" with my emotions. I just can't figure him out, if he is a player? Or he just likes that I am "hard to get"? Or if he really does like me, but I make it impossible for him cause I rejected him so many times. If you need more details let me know. Thank you.
Supernatural Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 Interesting. I have a really similar story with a girl I met 3.5 years ago... It's a hell of a story - way too long to type - minus, the weed, hookup and sex parts. It's a tad more romantic; but I'm not here to compare. Different journeys. From what it looks like you guys keep popping up in each others lives... I always take this as a sign from higher power that this person is suppose to be in your life in some form, even if it's just as a friend. You both clearly feel something for each other; albeit, it seems like you hold the cards. I would say give him a shot to see his real angle rather than sitting around and thinking. If you're not looking for a hook up; do things which make this impossible... Park dates, walks on beach, day time hangouts, dinner, but never go over to his place or invite him to yours. Keep it public. You posted on here. You must like him. DO you reject him in fear of being used? 1
Author Lovebite Posted August 12, 2014 Author Posted August 12, 2014 Interesting. I have a really similar story with a girl I met 3.5 years ago... It's a hell of a story - way too long to type - minus, the weed, hookup and sex parts. It's a tad more romantic; but I'm not here to compare. Different journeys. From what it looks like you guys keep popping up in each others lives... I always take this as a sign from higher power that this person is suppose to be in your life in some form, even if it's just as a friend. You both clearly feel something for each other; albeit, it seems like you hold the cards. I would say give him a shot to see his real angle rather than sitting around and thinking. If you're not looking for a hook up; do things which make this impossible... Park dates, walks on beach, day time hangouts, dinner, but never go over to his place or invite him to yours. Keep it public. You posted on here. You must like him. DO you reject him in fear of being used? Yes I do reject him in fear being used. I feel like sometimes I can't trust him but I like him a lot. I don't know if he has a girlfriend or not. It's confusing. Cause I don't know if he really likes this girl or not. When he was talking to his sister, he seemed to be talking about this girl in a disinterested way and basically saying she's clingy. The reason why I think she's not his girlfriend, is because he was going to a party and he told me to "Ditch my date and go to a party with him" Also he invited me over at like 2 am to his party, or whatever, and to me if you have a girlfriend, you're going to want to spend time with her, you are going to want to hang out with her. You wouldn't want me around lol. So I was a bit confused by that, definitely. It's still hard to tell. That's interesting you have almost the same story! I am too afraid now to want to go out with him cause I don't know for sure if he has a girlfriend or not. Thanks!!
PegNosePete Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 he shows me how interested he is and how much he likes me, he comes on strong, and then I don't show any interest Well he must be a bit dumb to keep on bashing his head against a brick wall like this. Any guy with self respect would take your repeated rejections and juvenile games as signs that you are not interested in his advances, and move on. Unless he has some other motivations for keeping up a relationship with you...? I went over his house to buy weed Bingo. 1
Author Lovebite Posted August 12, 2014 Author Posted August 12, 2014 Well he must be a bit dumb to keep on bashing his head against a brick wall like this. Any guy with self respect would take your repeated rejections and juvenile games as signs that you are not interested in his advances, and move on. Unless he has some other motivations for keeping up a relationship with you...? Bingo. Haha, what do you mean by the "Bingo" part? What are you trying to say? lol.
d0nnivain Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 As far as I can tell he has only extended hook up type invitations. There has never been a request for a proper date. Have you ever interacted with each other while you were NOT drunk or high? Personally I think any "love story" that includes the phrase "when I went over to his house to buy weed" is doomed.
PegNosePete Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 I am trying to say that the only reason he keeps the "relationship" going is that you buy drugs off him. 1
slizl Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 It is a fun game for him to see if he can sleep with you. NOthing more, nothing less.
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