Jadedbyluv Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 From personal experience, people aren't always honest when ending things. I guess as a way to soften the blow. Anybody ever been lied to only to find out the truth? Or have you lied to end the relationship?
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 Yep me I got "I never took anytime between my last relationship & getting with you & I need some time on my own" ... Followed by a new GF!! Lol x
me85 Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 Awww Heartbroken, no lol. )= Why not just tell the truth?? I guess everyone's not like me. I can handle the truth. & I know the truth no matter what people tell me. God gave me the best internal BS detector there is...impeccable intuition. But I can't be self righteous. Instead of telling a guy I was just not that into him I did the whole, "It's not you, it's me." thing. /= Sooo cliche. And I may very well have to do again in the future.
slizl Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 I have lied every time I have ended a relationship. I feel that some things would be too hurtful to tell the girl if I told the truth.
todreaminblue Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 once i was lied too, when i was a teen, the guy i was with , it was totally innocent he was 21 i was fifteen....he told me me that he didnt want to date me because i was too young....the truth was they were my parents words in hsi mouth....since my dad had a little get together with him and told him if he continued to date me he would have him to deal with ......my dad was a full foot and a half shorter than him....my dad however had a quiet dont mess with me presence.....scared the crap out of him......my mum only told me this a couple of years ago..... they went through him and not me.......they didnt bother asking me to break up with him.....they knew they would not stop me from being with him........so they stopped him....deb
Butterflying Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 Oh yeah. I once got: "I'm not ready for a committed relationship this soon after my divorce (divorced over 4 years)." And a few months after ending our relationship, he married another woman!!!
dumbass2 Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 I am assuming I was lied to. I think the dumper does it for themselves to try and make it easier for them. They don't want to have to deal with how you may act if they say the truth, but it only leaves questions then for the dumpee. Bottom line that I try to tell myself, is that no matter the reason, they wanted to leave the relationship. I've tried telling myself the reason doesn't matter, but then their actions afterwards don't match what they did. I would prefer an honest reason. It can still be sugar coated as to not be too hurtful, but the problem then is that the dumpee may still think there is hope. Honesty is the best policy and then it should be strict no contact by the dumper. That would seem to be the mature, adult way to do it, but those damn emotions come into play.
Haydn Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 I said i had to go to prison. (Don`t visit me, i could not bear it) 4
Toddbt12y1 Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 I did. But not to end the already far too gone relationship, just to end contact. It worked nonetheless. I simply figured she ran off whatever emotion I fed her. Positive, "I love yous..." or "I hate yous..." in short, I told her I had no feels for her. She simply ceased to exist. No lobe, no hate, just gone, empty. She cheated, and I wanted her to stop bothering me. I am glad that method worked
Author Jadedbyluv Posted August 11, 2014 Author Posted August 11, 2014 I'm a very honest person so I am always upfront. I've been lied to by a lot of people in my life ( not just in relationships) so I always date with integrity. But the one guy I was dating basically said he was leaving the country to do humanitarian work all in a few short weeks and is leaving this week. Now I know he did do similar work in the past but it all happened so fast. Some of it doesn't add up and I kinda feel like it is an easy way out. But at the same time you would have to be a bit of a sociopath to tell that big of a lie and to keep up with it.
Toddbt12y1 Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 I'm a very honest person so I am always upfront. I've been lied to by a lot of people in my life ( not just in relationships) so I always date with integrity. But the one guy I was dating basically said he was leaving the country to do humanitarian work all in a few short weeks and is leaving this week. Now I know he did do similar work in the past but it all happened so fast. Some of it doesn't add up and I kinda feel like it is an easy way out. But at the same time you would have to be a bit of a sociopath to tell that big of a lie and to keep up with it. Trust your instincts. They tell you more than you could ever imagine. 3
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