LonelyHero Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 After all the stuff i have been through your story does not seem even weird. If she is in , she will let you know. Do not text again , she took the 2 days of your attention and it's enough. Everyone talks like you should do the option one or the option 2. No bitch , you did a lot. I wouldn't continue this fairytale after the non answered call. You got your spectacular kiss, your self esteem went up , go for someone else who cares and does not have psycho issues.
HappyLove Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 If a man let me ride my bike home by myself at 2:30am.... that's not a man I'm interested in. The man I'm interested in is a MAN, 2:30am when all the weirdos are out and ANYTHING could happen. He would have seen me home then took himself home. Then you got all technical about her not texting you at what 3:00am now? She was too exhausted peddling as fast as she could while looking over her shoulder for the killer because you as a man couldn't be bothered. No matter how great the date was that night I'd be turned off! 7
JungleLover Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 If a man let me ride my bike home by myself at 2:30am.... that's not a man I'm interested in. The man I'm interested in is a MAN, 2:30am when all the weirdos are out and ANYTHING could happen. He would have seen me home then took himself home. Then you got all technical about her not texting you at what 3:00am now? She was too exhausted peddling as fast as she could while looking over her shoulder for the killer because you as a man couldn't be bothered. No matter how great the date was that night I'd be turned off! I misunderstood his post big time if he let her bike home alone at 2:30am alone. If that is the case, OP, there is your problem. 2
Author Supernatural Posted August 12, 2014 Author Posted August 12, 2014 If a man let me ride my bike home by myself at 2:30am.... that's not a man I'm interested in. The man I'm interested in is a MAN, 2:30am when all the weirdos are out and ANYTHING could happen. He would have seen me home then took himself home. Then you got all technical about her not texting you at what 3:00am now? She was too exhausted peddling as fast as she could while looking over her shoulder for the killer because you as a man couldn't be bothered. No matter how great the date was that night I'd be turned off! That would wreck the WHOLE date!? It's not like I live in Compton. Biking here is really safe. And she didn't seem to have a problem at all. She seemed fine and happy.
angel.eyes Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 (edited) I totally agree. This is spot on! And to make matters worse, you aren't really planning a date. Just contacting her at the last minute to get together with you. Of course, she's not going to have a conniption about you leaving her alone in the middle of the night. Most people are gracious on dates. She simply won't put herself in that situation again...by not going out with you again. Problem solved. If a man let me ride my bike home by myself at 2:30am.... that's not a man I'm interested in. The man I'm interested in is a MAN, 2:30am when all the weirdos are out and ANYTHING could happen. He would have seen me home then took himself home. Then you got all technical about her not texting you at what 3:00am now? She was too exhausted peddling as fast as she could while looking over her shoulder for the killer because you as a man couldn't be bothered. No matter how great the date was that night I'd be turned off! Edited August 12, 2014 by angel.eyes 3
Author Supernatural Posted August 12, 2014 Author Posted August 12, 2014 I totally agree. This is spot on! And to make matters worse, you aren't really planning a date. Just contacting her at the last minute to get together with you. Of course, she's not going to have a conniption about you leaving her alone in the middle of the night. Most people are gracious on dates. She simply won't put herself in that situation again...by not going out with you again. Problem solved. Contacting her last minute? What? All dates have been planned... It's hard to believe a great date would be over shadowed by not biking her home...
JungleLover Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 Contacting her last minute? What? All dates have been planned... It's hard to believe a great date would be over shadowed by not biking her home... Please tell me you are kidding. 1
Author Supernatural Posted August 12, 2014 Author Posted August 12, 2014 Please tell me you are kidding. No, I'm not. I've been on many first dates, offered to walk them home, and many have said "no, it's okay". And I have seen them again. I just can't fathom someone cutting out a date and going ice cold, based on one very small thing in the grand scheme of the entire night. Plus, she knew I wasn't going to bike her home, but kissed me anyways... If it was a deal breaker she would have just biked away. And if that really was the deal breaker, then the person is quite stubborn about what everything should look like.
JungleLover Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 No, I'm not. I've been on many first dates, offered to walk them home, and many have said "no, it's okay". And I have seen them again. I just can't fathom someone cutting out a date and going ice cold, based on one very small thing in the grand scheme of the entire night. Plus, she knew I wasn't going to bike her home, but kissed me anyways... If it was a deal breaker she would have just biked away. And if that really was the deal breaker, then the person is quite stubborn about what everything should look like. Of course we can only speculate but this could potentially be a turn off. Women still have some old fashioned way of looking at things and a good many of them still like to feel protected by their dates. Never underestimate the power of her telling her friends she biked home alone late at night as you allowed her. It can turn into a fiasco. Really though, it doesn't even take a goof up like that for this to happen but it is a perfectly good reason to turn a woman off. I would only allow a woman to do this if we were inside of Disney World, really. Anyway, I wish you good luck with this, man. 3
angel.eyes Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 It was just my observation. I guess I'm used to guys planning dates more than a day in advance...a lot further in advance. Ditto for thoughtfulness when it comes to my safety, comfort, and peace of mind. They are also just more aggressive about following up. That's all. If your choices have worked for you in the past, carry on... Contacting her last minute? What? All dates have been planned... It's hard to believe a great date would be over shadowed by not biking her home... 1
Author Supernatural Posted August 12, 2014 Author Posted August 12, 2014 It was just my observation. I guess I'm used to guys planning dates more than a day in advance...a lot further in advance. Ditto for thoughtfulness when it comes to my safety, comfort, and peace of mind. They are also just more aggressive about following up. That's all. If your choices have worked for you in the past, carry on... all dates have been planned at least a day in advance...
Author Supernatural Posted August 12, 2014 Author Posted August 12, 2014 Of course we can only speculate but this could potentially be a turn off. Women still have some old fashioned way of looking at things and a good many of them still like to feel protected by their dates. Never underestimate the power of her telling her friends she biked home alone late at night as you allowed her. It can turn into a fiasco. Really though, it doesn't even take a goof up like that for this to happen but it is a perfectly good reason to turn a woman off. I would only allow a woman to do this if we were inside of Disney World, really. Anyway, I wish you good luck with this, man. I get it. That's why I was thinking of just texting her and asking her if she's interested in seeing me again. Just be straight.
Author Supernatural Posted August 12, 2014 Author Posted August 12, 2014 And I did say Text me when you get home... So it's not like I didn't give a **** at all...
JungleLover Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 And I did say Text me when you get home... So it's not like I didn't give a **** at all... Well, maybe that is why she didn't text back. Dating is fun, heh?
Author Supernatural Posted August 12, 2014 Author Posted August 12, 2014 Well, maybe that is why she didn't text back. Dating is fun, heh? That would be absolutely ridiculous.
HappyLove Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 And I did say Text me when you get home... So it's not like I didn't give a **** at all... And she didn't and you didn't even follow up! You're still harping on someone not texting you at 3:00AM! These are not normal hours. She was exhausted and probably scared and just glad to be home. I don't care how safe it is where you live a woman out riding a bike by herself at 2:30 3:00 in the am is NOT a safe thing to do! She seemed ok when she peddled off by herself because with every turn of the peddle she was thinking....'wait he's really letting me go by myself... He's REALLY letting my bike home BY MYSELF. Poor thing was in shock. 3
JungleLover Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 That would be absolutely ridiculous. No it is not, man. Here it is, you allow a woman to bike home alone outside of Disney World at 2:30 am and said "text me when you make it home" and she doesn't text you then what you do? You went to to sleep! Why ask her to text you to let you know she made it home if you are not going to even go looking for her if she doesn't? You really did fail on this one. This is like arguing that cigarettes is not bad for you. Who would argue against this? 3
Author Supernatural Posted August 12, 2014 Author Posted August 12, 2014 And she didn't and you didn't even follow up! You're still harping on someone not texting you at 3:00AM! These are not normal hours. She was exhausted and probably scared and just glad to be home. I don't care how safe it is where you live a woman out riding a bike by herself at 2:30 3:00 in the am is NOT a safe thing to do! She seemed ok when she peddled off by herself because with every turn of the peddle she was thinking....'wait he's really letting me go by myself... He's REALLY letting my bike home BY MYSELF. Poor thing was in shock. Haha jesus.... It sounds like you're pitching a script for a new thriller/horror movie. Like the guy from the texas chainsaw massacre is going to come running out of the bushes near a playground.
Author Supernatural Posted August 12, 2014 Author Posted August 12, 2014 No it is not, man. Here it is, you allow a woman to bike home alone outside of Disney World at 2:30 am and said "text me when you make it home" and she doesn't text you then what you do? You went to to sleep! Why ask her to text you to let you know she made it home if you are not going to even go looking for her if she doesn't? You really did fail on this one. This is like arguing that cigarettes is not bad for you. Who would argue against this? Ya.. I can see that now. Well.... dammit. How can I recover from this?
Mrin Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 Ok let's assume this was the issue. She was obviously digging you before this. The fiction that you're having to overcome is that you were playing her to get sex and when she didn't stay the night you blew her off. So you need to show her otherwise. Propose a date after she feels better that isn't "sex conducive". Watching a meteor shower is uber romantic but also means you might be trying to have sex with her. Instead, pick something that she would really like where sex would not be even remotely possible. It demonstrates that you want to see her not just have sex with her. Actions speak louder than words. 1
todreaminblue Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 (edited) Haha jesus.... It sounds like you're pitching a script for a new thriller/horror movie. Like the guy from the texas chainsaw massacre is going to come running out of the bushes near a playground. no pitch but heres reality.... once i walked home from work(this was two decades ago) in kings cross sydney and a guy from texas chainsaw didnt jump out at me it was about 8 pm i was safe right walked th same way all the time never had a problem........but what did i happen is a guy followed me home from work and beat the living crap out of me......because i wouldnt let him in to see his gf who was scared crapless and had left him with my help ....women can be attacked anywhere anytime even in their own home,its no movie its the daily news....make it 230 am and you have a higher risk of it happening thats just fact...... most of my dates i have had have been with gentleman.....i dont date boys.....even when i was a young woman l i dated men...men they take me home or walk me home ...drive me home...after i have been on a date with them..i will often say i can look after myself you dont have to worry and i may even repeat that...i dotn want to be a burden......i would not really respect a man who said fine.....i can look after myself though i am no chicken.....deb Edited August 12, 2014 by todreaminblue
Author Supernatural Posted August 12, 2014 Author Posted August 12, 2014 no pitch but heres reality.... once i walked home from work(this was two decades ago) in kings cross sydney and a guy from texas chainsaw didnt jump out at me it was about 8 pm i was safe right walked th same way all the time never had a problem........but what did i happen is a guy followed me home from work and beat the living crap out of me......because i wouldnt let him in to see his gf who was scared crapless and had left him with my help ....women can be attacked anywhere anytime even in their own home,its no movie its the daily news....make it 230 am and you have a higher risk of it happening thats just fact...... most of my dates i have had have been with gentleman.....i dont date boys.....even when i was a young woman l i dated men...men they take me home or walk me home ...drive me home...after i have been on a date with them..i will often say i can look after myself you dont have to worry and i may even repeat that...i dotn want to be a burden......i would not really respect a man who said fine.....i can look after myself though i am no chicken.....deb I am a gentleman. Simply just let one slide when I wasn't thinking. My head was on our next hangout and excitement for that and the kiss we just shared. And if it's one moment which buckles the whole date like that; then that relationship would be very unforgiving. If 99% of the date is relatively smooth and the 1% is me not offering to bike her home and she categorizes me as a dud because of one small thing... That to me, is blowing it out of proportion. Guys do much worse...
Astrolink Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 I would have texted her to get better, ask her if she needs anything and ask her to contact her when she's feeling better as you would like to see her again. 1
Author Supernatural Posted August 12, 2014 Author Posted August 12, 2014 I would have texted her to get better, ask her if she needs anything and ask her to contact her when she's feeling better as you would like to see her again. Ask her if she need anything? No way... That looks too desperado
Mrin Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 Ask her if she need anything? No way... That looks too desperado Are you kidding me? No, it looks like you genuinely want to care for her in a moment of need. To most women, a guy who is caring enough to offer to bring her something unprompted when she's not feeling well is a highly desirable quality. So I don't want to jump all over you on this but I think you're confusing Pick Up Artist games with romance. If all you want to do is get laid then by all means follow the Pick Up Artist rule book. Notice how none of the PUA stories end with "and then we fell madly in love with each other"? No they're just manipulation and control techniques used to get laid. Romance, well that's different. Romance is putting forward your best qualities and seeing she reacts. And vice versa. If there is chemistry then poof! If not, then it wasn't meant to be. All women want to be cared for in some fashion. Even if they don't need it like Deb said above. Masculine energy is all about doing so why don't you use some of that to offer to do something for her. She probably won't accept but the gesture will be noted and she will feel happier knowing you offered. Here's the thing dude. What type of man do you want to be? Think on that. What do you want to be to her or some other woman you're in a relationship with? Figure that out and then be that man. For me, my natural male essence is the knight in shining armor. The women I date - especially the one I am dating now are all uber strong and don't need a protector. Rather, she takes great comfort in knowing that she doesn't always have to be strong as I will have her back. In fact, our relationship is a respite for her where she chooses to be less strong because she can and she trusts me. Figure out who you are and then be that guy. Doesn't mean you'll nail every woman you meet because not every woman is right for you. You hear that - not every woman is right for you. What I see with these games... These PUA moves? I see a bunch of boys twisting themselves into pretzels to separate women from their panties. So I ask you - given all that bending and contortion - who's really in control? Hint: it isn't the PUA 5
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