Mysterio Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 I went out with D for about 5 months in 2012. We parted as friends. We have contact at least once a month. Yesterday. She sent me a Txt saying she wants to talk to me about our friendship. I have a feeling that she wants to end our friendship. She can be very moody. I always felt that it was mature that we could remain friends after we dated. So I have a meeting with her next week. As fat as I am concerned. Out of all the people I know. We should have no problems at all. Its not like we don't talk or we are in each others space all the time. If she wants to pull the plug on our friendship. Should I fight it because she is just being moody. Or do I just let it go. I really don't know which way to go. I guess I feel like I can resolve every situation that I find myself and I am finding that there are certain things that I can't.
d0nnivain Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 What's there to fight? Perhaps she is in a new romance & that person is uncomfortable with your friendship.
Author Mysterio Posted August 11, 2014 Author Posted August 11, 2014 (edited) This came out of the blue. She actually told me a month ago that the new guy she was seeing, that they have taken a break. The most I see my ex D is once every other month. So it would be like talk on the phone once a month for 10 minutes. Then get together for dinner for 1.5 hours the next month and then skip a month or two. Its not like we are on the phone every week. Thats it. No Movies or spending time with at her place or mine. No major outings at all. Very chill and low key. Its the way she phrased the text that got me rattled a bit. I just lost a co-worker to suicide last week. I am not in the mood for any lecture or perceived problems. Its not like if the new guy met me if there is one. He would be threatened by me in any way. There has never been any situation that I have emposed on her while she is out. We met in June of 2012 and stopped dating in mid NOV 2012. So we have not had any intimate relations since then. Other than the odd kiss on the cheek and hug when I leave her. Its just that she can be very moody/discontented. Like who ever is going to be with her long term. They are not getting a woman that is Up and happy all the time. I really helped her with some things last year. As far as I am concerned. I thought things were okay. I do find that she is a bit hard to warm up. I am very low stress for her. No drama or murkiness on my part. She never even met my parents, so its not like there is issues between us. Technically she just cooled things with guy #3. Its not like she had me coming between them in some way. I don't know why some people get funny when you least expect it. I feel like I should do a massive purge from any friend that is being funny and murky towards me. She basically told me before we make any plans to meet up we need to talk about our friendship. There is not even a hint of any-type of romantic back sliding on my part. So this is really out of the blue. Edited August 11, 2014 by Mysterio
gaius Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 I'm way too possessive to be friends with an ex. The minute I hear about a new guy my eyes bug out of my head and she's dead to me.
d0nnivain Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 I'm sorry about your co-worker. Having lost people to suicide, I suspect your perception of the world in general is a bit off kilter right now. Continue to be low stress for your EX. She'll probably come wandering back at some point.
darkmoon Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 (edited) mature to not accuse or blame, but the sentiment, the hope, to be friends regardless, is not if you hold up this hope and lionise what you share because she is an ex, a new girlfriend might well object, no ifs or buts, it is her or me, if you were to if or but, to object, i would go to a man who cared to put me first all the way sorry, but if you insist on the friendship, this for an old times sake bond, i would be suspicious of her motives, like she is keeping you on hold, and resent how she has only to phone for you to be attentive (60 y o me) so do you intend to perpetrate this unfairness, the time you will spend on this ex, the nice guy thing, on a new girlfriend? tbh, if i was your newbie, i would drop you, or just use you when i have nothing else to do, on seeing no devotion of yours to me in the picture, so tell the ex to move on and get a new guy, no more clinging to you Edited August 13, 2014 by darkmoon
dogeared Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 You're just guessing that she wants to end the friendship. Is there anything besides her wanting to talk about the relationship that makes you think she wants to end it? That said, if you are low-stress and drama free for her, don't you deserve the same thing from her? I could understand that if she was seriously dating someone who had a problem with your relationship, she might end it. Although that is kind of hard to believe, as it seems like a rare person who does that. So, barring that it doesn't seem to make sense, based on what you've said, that she wants to end the relationship. Why did you break up? Maybe she wants to get back together.
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