Wisecrack Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 History: -Intentions clear from the start, she declined -Ended up getting very 'cosy' at a party but nothing came of it -Kept in touch during the holidays of which repeated efforts at a coffee were declined. I did it more out fun tease and having nothing to lose and keeping her in the loop while I looked for fresher pastures. Come university term starts again and things have changed. -First day and instant flirtation and attraction is shown -This continues and builds momentum -We have a ball coming up and we are going as a group ^She became upset when she believed I was going to turn up in a retro fleuro suit making fun of the situation even though we were not going as partners. ^Upon asking about her dress, she would not let me know anything about it but she wanted it to be special when I first get to see her. -Her friends are all gunning for me and say that she is starting to fall for me Yet the only thing that irks me is that I have to initiate almost everything (90/10) at this moment and yet half the time, she lets the conversation die by not replying and I am left powerless (in the past this is normally how I go abouts things but she has turned the table and wrapped me up). I know she is quite shy. As such, I give her space and a few days later will get into contact with her again. Every time, it is prompt and indepth replies. In person everything is going smooth sailing. I'm impatient. Furthermore I feel I have committed way too much to this. I am not sure I am like my other friend who took 10 months to land his current model girlfriend or another friend who took 4 years for his highschool sweet heart. Asking another friend for advice, he asked me a question and that was whether I liked her. I answered yes and that he told me was the answer.
smackie9 Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 Ask her out one more time, and if she declines, you have your answer......stop the chase. 1
Author Wisecrack Posted August 11, 2014 Author Posted August 11, 2014 Thanks man, I would but we are essentially going to the ball together in a weeks time.
ThorntonMelon Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 So you asked a question, got the (correct) answer, and immediately informed the poster you weren't going to do it. What is the point of your question? Obviously she's an immature college student who doesn't know what she's doing and probably loves the drama. In all matters related to life, the closer you can get to alpha male, the better. In this case, feigning interest doesn't work because you've already committed (and given her control of your relationship). I would stop chasing. I would be friendly with her, go to the ball, have fun, but I'd initiate NOTHING. If her friends talk to you, I'd tell them you're very interested in her but she's turned you down every time, and you don't want to be one of those pathetic guys who keeps chasing a girl who's not into him in that way. If she's falling for you, you aren't going to turn her off by being less available, you'll turn her off by being too available or by being rude. Stop chasing. Be open, be honest, be warm, shoot straight, and respect yourself. 1
iveria Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 If you're really impatient, perhaps you could be upfront with her and let her know that you can't wait around and that you need a concise answer. There's a chance this might scare her off completely but it's a risk you should be willing to take if you're truly getting tired of the chase.
smackie9 Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 Thanks man, I would but we are essentially going to the ball together in a weeks time. Then ask her out after, or see how the night goes.
Assasda Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 She's high atop the Pedestal. No offese OP. But youre nothing to her romantically
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