normabates Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 Ok so I've been friends with a guy for around ten years....everyone im in a relationship he tells me how much he really wants me...loves me ..blah blah....once I'm single...he has no interest in me, now for the past 6 months he asks me to dinner several times....and every time he has an excuse for why he can't go. Then gets on fb with statuses saying he's tired of bring single.....I've even asked him....why make plans with me..when you know you're not going to go through with it. And he just never gives an answer.....why do you think he does this? I don't have Abby feelings for him....at first i was interested but he's flaked so much...i have lost respect for him.
Miss Match Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 I think the real question is, why are YOU bothering anymore? Clearly he is not interested in you. He just wants to know he could have you, if he wanted, which he doesn't. Move on. 3
dolceamourr Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 He does it because it boosts his ego thinking that you're interested and that no matter how many times he flakes, you still accept his invitations, still talk to him, and still ask him why he flakes on you. It makes him feel wanted and cool. But you have to stop allowing it. He is interested only when you're taken and ignores you when you're single because again, it boosts his ego to know you will still give him attention even though you're dating someone else. You need to ignore this guy. Don't accept invitations to see him, and don't question him about anything. It will drive him nuts. 2
Author normabates Posted August 11, 2014 Author Posted August 11, 2014 Thanks guys for the replies.....I'm blocking him on my fb right now
ExpatInItaly Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 He's obviously not into you. He just likes the validation of knowing you'd go out with him. He sounds like a whiny child. Stop accepting his invitations. You already know he's not serious about it.
HappyLove Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 Is this some internet guy who you've never met in person?
Author normabates Posted August 11, 2014 Author Posted August 11, 2014 No he's not from online, i used to work with him. Its all good, i blocked him.
Author normabates Posted August 11, 2014 Author Posted August 11, 2014 What bothered me the most is he was once my best friend and was there for me many years ago when i got treated the exact same way by my first love...and now he's repeated the dame behavior, I'm not into him....he's 300lbs and says he's not good at sex.....i only made the post because i was just curious as to why someone would do simmering like this.....i figured it was for attention. Thanks everyone
deathandtaxes Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 (edited) A Friend like this is a crappy friend to have, even if is or isn't romantically interested in you. I think we all have these friends, that are extremely unreliable. And we just stop trying to make plans with this guy. If he likes you romantically, he sucks at showing it. Also, if you're not into him, you should never have agreed to go to dinner with him in the first place. You can always say 'I like you as a friend, and that will never change. I am not going on a date with you' or some such. Edited August 11, 2014 by deathandtaxes 1
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