Dbz Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 So I really liked this girl and believed she had some level of interest in me. Been friends with this girl for about a year, we've been texting etc throughout the summer, we live 1 hour away due to college break. She's never had a boyfriend or been in a relationship. Yesterday we hung out and went to an amusement park together. She was very touchy, lots of eye contact etc. Anyways she leaves for a family trip in 1 week and I wanted to take her out to dinner prior so today I called her and was going to ask her I wanted to take her out to dinner, she said to text her instead of calling her. She said she can't this week but when she returned from vacation in 2 weeks. I told her I wanted to go before she left and she asked me why in which I responded that I would be busy when school started again. She told me she doesn't want me driving 1 hour just to get food and I told her I didn't mind the drive, just wanted to take her out before she left. She told me she was sorry she simply couldn't this week and I told her if she doesn't want to she can tell me no straight up instead of leaving me hanging. She never replied after that. Either I came off to strong and shocked her or she was scared to simply tell me no with the fear of losing out friendship. My question is Wouldn't someone who was interested want to see you instead of waiting 3 weeks? Should I just drop it and forget about it? I honestly like this girl and just find it kind of annoying how she can be so flirtatious in person and go completely cold the next day.
smackie9 Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 I feel she understood what you were angling for and her avoidance is a message to you "I'm not interested". Yup you need to forget about it.
Assasda Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 You were rude to this poor girl. Youre lucky she didnt just tell you to leave her alone. You put so much pressure on her and you expect her to melt at your offer. control your emotions man. Yeah, move on 2
smackie9 Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 Ya she probably got the impression you were becoming too possessive and it creeped her out.
Gaeta Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 I don't think you did anything wrong. I think she is inexperienced and therefore nervous at your straight forward approach. She doesn't know how to handle being chased so she delays. It was perfectly normal to want to see her before 3 weeks. Now let it rest and let her get back to you. If your invitation to dinner is a big deal to her than be ready that everything else will be a first and be a big deal to her.
smackie9 Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 "I simply can't make it this week...." does that not mean "no" ?
d0nnivain Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 You got a little testy by forcing her into a corner. She felt it was too much for you to drive 1 hour to see her just for food. You didn't respect that. She did tell you when she was available but that wasn't good enough for you. She wanted a slower pace then you so yeah you were a bit pushy. If you have any hope of saving this, text her the day before she leaves to say you hope she has an enjoyable vacation. Don't say anything else. When she's back, call her again. Apologize for being pushy & ask for another date. If she declines, walk away.
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