Darren2013 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 Attraction may not be a choice and we can't help who we will ultimately be attracted to but it is a choice whether or not to act on the attraction or suppress it. There are many external factors at work that may compel a person to suppress and conceal an attraction for someone else. I'm going through that situation now. For many years I've always said I would never date women in the workplace. I am still sticking to that rule in spite of the fact that for the first time there is this lady that I have feelings for. Actually in the last 2 weeks my feelings have progressed and it is a scary thing. I've known her and worked with her for the past 10 years. It is a scary thing that all of a sudden my feelings for her have progressed and as a result of that I have kept a distance from her as much as possible and I have stopped engaging her in conversation that has nothing to do with work related stuff. I wish I did not have these feelings for various reasons. Now I started thinking am I alone in this? Are there some women out there too who develop strong feelings for a guy but choose not to act on those feelings? If that is the case then the end result is the same. Her and that certain guy are not going to be together. It doesn't matter how strong her feelings are if she chooses to suppress them. It is going to lead to the same result as a woman with no feelings for the guy. And what's funny is as far as everyone knows I'm not interested in dating this lady. I claim I'm not interested but what I really mean is that I wish I wasn't interested.
smackie9 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 This is typical of workplace bonding. You spend almost everyday with this person and the the thing you have in most in common with is work. Most acknowledge for what it is, a workplace crush, and never act upon it. Yes eventually the crush passes, and you will wonder "what was I thinking?"
Author Darren2013 Posted August 10, 2014 Author Posted August 10, 2014 Well I wouldn't say work is the only thing we have in common. Our personalities are very much alike. We both share the same views on many subjects and have other things in common as far as likes and dislikes and our outlook and philosophies about life. But I agree that I should just give it time and see if the feelings go away. Even if they don't at least I know how to manage them and hold them in check. Kind of like a cancer. We may not be able to cure it but we have tools to keep it at bay.
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