6 years relationship over,GF left me,feeling real desperate

[Radu]

OP, your story mirrors mine to some extent.

An unbelievably low self-esteem, improved in time.

It is now almost 6yrs from my lowest point.

 

You regret the lost 6yrs, the debt that you will need a long time to fix, etc ... but what about the lesson ?

If you truly fix yourself, and become this much better person you will have won a fantastic life.

You will know a lot about psychology, something that will further your career.

You will know how to find a good partner, which is something very few achieve.

And you will be able to translate the above into a fantastic career, because you will understand human relationships better.

[Radu]

these last few days, i'm felling very hollow, i was seeing other woman, this last week she said she loves me, and that made me run from her, she only know me for a month, she dosen't know me, and i really don't feel ready to date again,or to have a rebound

 

society, our families, they all force you to aim to the "Perfect social image", the nice job, the good car, and of course, a woman on your side, don't matter who the person is, it's all good if you satisfy all the society demands.

 

my mother is urging me to have another GF, but i don't want to, even having sex with another woman right now just seems a waste of time and energy for me

 

i plan on going low profile for a bit, let people think i'm a weirdo, or a loser, whatever, just focusing on me

 

stop being a caregiver, and sacrificing myself for others.

 

Read this thread, it may help a little.

It's about the type [of woman] that we go for.

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/general/general-relationship-discussion/384993-female-personality-dating-guys-answer

[SethDamien]

I feel you @close

 

even though me and my gf lasted for 3 years, and we broke up 10 months ago, im still in alot of pain.

 

your story compels me to follow in your footstep... seeing a guy pull through 6 years of a relationship with a girl he saw as the most beautiful and perfect in his world, immediately come tumbling down and seeing her treat you that way.

 

My ex also has a BPD personality. She recently told me i was the WORST person she ever met. And i actually believe her! And i cried my heart out to ask her to be softer towards me, and she'd just respond "you're so miserable!, and you'll be miserable your whole life!". Women right?

 

@close, just know you're not useless, you've progressed a lot actually, and you've helped another guy get his inspiration back! I'll stay posted to hear about your progress! Goodluck!

[Closetotheedge]

Thanks Again DownTown

 

if in your case was 2 years, i imagine that, as you said, with more 6 months i will be in a better place

 

@Radu

 

Indeed was a lesson, a very hard one, but i'm learning

i will read your thread

 

 

@Seth

 

I'm really happy for the fact that i'm helping you with your hard times by sharing my experience.

 

it's beign really hard, but we can never give up, we need to stick to NC and regain our self respect.