FalseHeart Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 Hi, I met a guy online 10 years ago. Even though we live on opposite sides of the country, he became my closest friend for many years. I did not know how to maintain a long distance relationship and also had some insecurities that ultimately made me a poor excuse for a friend. We grew apart and are now practically strangers. I manage to talk to him once or twice a year but its never about family or relationships or anything really personal. He recently got a new phone and asked folks to send him their numbers. I dont know why but ever since then I havent been able to get him out of my head. I want to know him intimately again badly. I find myself fantasizing about being with him on and off, having a relationship with him. The thing is I'm currently in a 3 yr old relationship. I've made it known I'm not happy and may be ending it a few months. I havent been alone/single for more than a few months since I was 17. I realize that I need to work on being happy with myself by myself in order to have the self esteem to be in a healthy happy relationship. So even if I was single I couldnt be with this friend right now. Plus as I said we're strangers, and I dont know that he's ever considered me romantically. So ultimately, the way I see it, I'm tormenting myself with these fantasies. I just want them to stop. Has anyone had this situation and have some tips? I'd really appreciate them. Thanks.
Zippy2000 Posted August 13, 2014 Posted August 13, 2014 I believe since you`re unhappy your lookimg for someone who has been there or paid attention to you. I ve been there. I ve been alone and single for a few years now, and once every so often in the past I used to look at my friends who I could see them romantically. Nothing wrong with it but its just fantasy and sometime being alone. One tends to act on the fanstasy. Remember the facts. He has been nothing more than a friend and he may see you as nothing more than that. Also find out why youre unhappy and if you can work it through with your partner or if you think you cant then its time to start new but be cuatious of your friend who lives on the other side of the country as your initial gut instinct may have been correct. Good luck whatever you decide.
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