BridgetGrey Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 I think I'm 70% healed, therefore, I don't feel the need to post here more than I already did. I'm not 100% there even though I wish I was, yet I'm more grounded and my ex does not influence like he did months ago. How I got here no contact not gonna say 100% coz me and my ex have a pattern of keep each other around and I'm going a family crisis , but yeah when do not talk to him or her as much you get used to it and you find your inner peace. I broke no contact but it didn't make me feel as bad as it did last time. I guess we use not to let our ex hurt and now my ex doesn't have that power to hurt since I do not expect anything from him. My point is to all of you it does get better yes sometime I wish my ex would vanish , yet I know it will take time to heal the wounds. Hang in there and yes it rough , but we have to believe there better in store of us out there in life rather than a relationship with someone who toke us for granted:) 1
Reels Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 Yes it is hard but it becomes easier when you learn to suppress your heart.
Missy0724 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 Great to hear! And yes, it's ok to break NC, we are not perfect human beings. We are imperfect, feeling, sometimes not strong, humans. And that's ok! I have done the same. And it hasn't wrecked me, I haven't gone back to where I was a month ago. I'm stronger and on way to getting over him, so if we have contact, it doesn't bother me as much. I know we were both unhappy, too many issues. It was bound to end... and that's ok. And hoping maybe soon we can be friends. We are both mature adults. If we can let go of the past, forgive, accept, be grateful another human loved us, shared their life and time with us, even for a period of time - we should be grateful! Some people are not so lucky! Some people have diseases, illnesses, are in a wheelchair, etc. and are never blessed to be in a romantic relationship! Be thankful! Relationships end. This is life. If you think you are going to find your "soulmate" at 20 years old - that is rare. And it's healthy and good to have a few deep, meaningful relationships to learn and grow from. So when the time comes, you'll be in a good place to settle down with one person. Get out there and live! See the world! Love your job, hobbies, friends, pets, volunteer, share your gifts with others! Everyone is special and has something to offer. We just need to believe that! And we don't need another person to validate us, "complete" us. That is mainstream American culture brainwashing us into this "Disney" love affair crap. lol But it's true! If someone doesn't want to be with us anymore and tells us so - listen! And out of respect for yourself and that other person you supposedly love and care about, respect their decision. Love YOURSELF first! Better to be alone for awhile, than with wrong person. Be patient! Why we all in such a rush? Timing is everything, and when the time is right, that person will cross our path. We have to let go of trying to control everything, especially us women. We need to keep the faith! In time, all will work out as it's supposed to! Be brave! Be strong! I'm glad you are feeling better! Me, too! :-)
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