standupgirl85 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 So here I go single mom if two on Pof dating site. I've been on and off of it for a while I sent this guy a message who lives close and is super cute. Best of all we talk like we've been friends for years by joking around and being sarcastic. We have yet to run out of anything to say. Basically I met him on Thursday night he didn't want me going to the casino by myself so told me to come pick him up. I did he got in the car no hesitation and we went on talking about just everything. Basically lost our butts off but I have food comp money so we grabbed a bite. Anyhow while we were eating he was telling me about his kids showed me pics and his baby mama problems. He also mentioned his ex they only dated about a month and this was 3 weeks ago. Basically laid everything out on the table and told me where he stands. We still chatted a while after I brought him home. And he kind of said like with everything I told u is on my plate u still wanna talk? So I guess what I'm asking after him telling me all these details of his life and ex love... is he just being friendly or just giving me a heads up so if we date I know where he stands. Now since we've met we've texted 3 days straight from waking up until bedtime. If we're just headed toward friendship why are we texting constantly and getting to know each other so well? We joke and talk about everything. We even talked jokingly about getting a dog that we both thought was cute. And he told me he would be cool hanging out with my kids. I was going to pick him up from work because his car recently got stolen and he comments "not the ideal situation for meeting your kids"., I ended up not getting him but anyway. I told him I closed my pof profile and told them I met my prince charming he kind if just laughed it off. I know he's on a dating website so ud think that's what he's looking for. But today while we were texting he's like I'm looking for friends if I find my wife on pof then so be it. So I feel that was a set back to me like oh I thought we were pretty cool. But I know it's only been a few days. Any thoughts here? Ty all for reading my rambling...
DazedandConfused8 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 You're a single mom of two on welfare who has time and money to gamble at the casino and take your date out with foodstamp money after? I'd say take whatever you can get.
Gaeta Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 Basically I met him on Thursday night he didn't want me going to the casino by myself so told me to come pick him up. I did he got in the car no hesitation. Of course he went in the car no hesitation, he's a man !!! What about YOUR security? You do NOT go to people's home or get in someone's car on a first date. I have food comp money so we grabbed a bite.. You take food out of your children's mouth to give a pure stranger you met on the net? And he told me he would be cool hanging out with my kids.. If he dates you for 3 months THEN consider introducing your children. I was going to pick him up from work because his car recently got stolen You're his taxi already But today while we were texting he's like I'm looking for friends if I find my wife on pof then so be it. That is code for he's looking to take advantage of all women he'll meet letting them believe there could be an opening for a relationship. 1
Assasda Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 You're a single mom of two on welfare who has time and money to gamble at the casino and take your date out with foodstamp money after? I'd say take whatever you can get. hahahahahahaha I laughed so hard at this. Op really though, its been a few days, give the guy some time. He sounds like he has a good head on his shoulders. Its like you want to marry him already 1
katinlc Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 You're a single mom of two on welfare who has time and money to gamble at the casino and take your date out with foodstamp money after? I'd say take whatever you can get. Did I miss something in this post (or was there another post stating she was on welfare)? I took the food comp to mean comp's the casino gives you for gambling with them. Gamble enough and get free food, room, etc...
veggirl Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 Why are people freaking out about welfare? That was never even mentioned in the OP. You guys have never heard of being COMPED at a casino for food/hotel??? It's not food stamps, LOL. OP, this guy is not into you and I call BS about his car being stolen, he probably doesn't have a car. You jumped in way too fast (talking about getting a dog, him meeting your kids, calling him your prince charming) and he freaked cause he just wants fun, not all that BS. He was BSing you w/ the flattery "lets get a dog" and you ate it all up, he said it to get in your pants more quickly! 1
veggirl Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 Did I miss something in this post (or was there another post stating she was on welfare)? I took the food comp to mean comp's the casino gives you for gambling with them. Gamble enough and get free food, room, etc... Her only other thread is about the same situation, does not mention food stamps at all. One person misread or misunderstood, the others read that persons reply and got excited to give her sh.t w/o reading themselves. It's the internet!
DazedandConfused8 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 I was the only person who mentioned anything about welfare, and if that's not what "food comp" mean then I completely apologize.
HappyLove Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 Mother of 2 drives and picks up PERFECT STRANGER after "knowing him" 3 days. Nice. Did anyone even know where you were? His name? What he looked like? How can people be so careless?! Especially with 2 kids! As far as your questions. He's playing you. He's a liar doesn't have a car. You're acting hella thirsty. Keep looking for a man without all the baggage & drama, oh and who has a car. I know you can do better.
thekid36 Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 So here I go single mom if two on Pof dating site. I've been on and off of it for a while I sent this guy a message who lives close and is super cute. Best of all we talk like we've been friends for years by joking around and being sarcastic. We have yet to run out of anything to say. Basically I met him on Thursday night he didn't want me going to the casino by myself so told me to come pick him up. I did he got in the car no hesitation and we went on talking about just everything. Basically lost our butts off but I have food comp money so we grabbed a bite. Anyhow while we were eating he was telling me about his kids showed me pics and his baby mama problems. He also mentioned his ex they only dated about a month and this was 3 weeks ago. Basically laid everything out on the table and told me where he stands. We still chatted a while after I brought him home. And he kind of said like with everything I told u is on my plate u still wanna talk? So I guess what I'm asking after him telling me all these details of his life and ex love... is he just being friendly or just giving me a heads up so if we date I know where he stands. Now since we've met we've texted 3 days straight from waking up until bedtime. If we're just headed toward friendship why are we texting constantly and getting to know each other so well? We joke and talk about everything. We even talked jokingly about getting a dog that we both thought was cute. And he told me he would be cool hanging out with my kids. I was going to pick him up from work because his car recently got stolen and he comments "not the ideal situation for meeting your kids"., I ended up not getting him but anyway. I told him I closed my pof profile and told them I met my prince charming he kind if just laughed it off. I know he's on a dating website so ud think that's what he's looking for. But today while we were texting he's like I'm looking for friends if I find my wife on pof then so be it. So I feel that was a set back to me like oh I thought we were pretty cool. But I know it's only been a few days. Any thoughts here? Ty all for reading my rambling... So, here I go on basically no sleep trying to come up with some kind of response. Forgive me if I come across as a fool. You think that is rambling? Check out some of my posts and try again! Detroit City, huh? Crazy place to make sense out of. I used to live just North up in Kid Rock Town. They actually have the audacity to put up a brand new casino with all of the broken buildings out there. All of that crime and poverty. How is that Mr. Kilpatrick doing these days? Twenty-eight years in the joint for that freeloading fool. Busted right in the belly by good ol' Five-O. Maybe he will drop the soap and get screwed the same way the city was. Should have given him double. Back to the issue at hand here. I honestly think that you are thinking way too much at this point. Especially after only one date. Who knows why he told you what he did? Perhaps, he was trying to get you to feel badly on purpose. So as to get something out of you more quickly. Such as some sex. Or, maybe he has some sort of hidden agenda. Perhaps, he was trying to simply lay all the cards out on the table in an honest and open way. Maybe him taking a step back means he respects you and is trying to play the part of the cool cat. It is simply too early to tell. Keep in mind that he really may not be in the best financial situation right now. He must be closer to Mack Avenue than Kercheval. Just make sure you are aware of this and okay with it before going any further. I would suggest giving this some time so as to see how it all plays out. No real reason to rush anything.
RuralMama Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 It might be a good idea to slow down and not make assumptions. I always thought that a relationship is best when formed on the foundation of a good friendship. Slow down my friend, appreciate him for who he is and listen well. Don't assume. Hugs! 1
preraph Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 Men are rarely just trying to cultivate friendship, so he wants more than that. He's probably still involved with the baby mama. You need to find out from him if they live together and if they're still sleeping together. He offered some info, so you need to confirm it because guys lie all the time. Get her name and his name and find out where they each live. Pay an online "public profile" service $25 if you have to. He may just be looking for an affair. If you can confirm he's indeed not seeing her, then his honestly being up front about it is good as long as he was totally truthful.
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