katinlc Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 (edited) Hi all, I met a guy online a little over a month ago. Since we first started talking, we pretty much talk everyday - either through text, FB, or a phone call. He initiates most of the conversations, though I will freely message him too. We have hung out a total of 5 times. He is very open and honest in what he is looking for and how he feels, which is cool, but something I'm not entirely use to. We are also very different and both recognize that and realize that it will be a true case of opposites attract if we end up together. Anywhoo his actions (keeping in daily communication, asking me out) indicate he is interested, but there has been really no physical aspect to it other than a hug at the end of every time we get together. We actually had a discussion about it the other day and he said that he is concerned about our differences for long-term and that is why he hasn't progressed romantically at this point because he is unsure of his feelings. He wants to continue with how things are for now and go with the flow and see how things develop but doesn't want to rush things. He did want me to feel free to date others since he was unsure of his feelings and I said that is fine but I don't like to do that after a couple of dates because it is too hard for me to separate my feelings. During this conversation it almost got to the point where we decided to just be friends - I think he thought I was pushing for exclusivity (I wasn't - just looking for progression on the affection end) or moving on and I thought he was saying he didn't have feelings for me and wanted to just be friends. It was late and we ended the conversation with that we were just going to go with the flow for now & also pick up the conversation later. The next day he becomes super chatty - way more than normal during the day. He starts a conversation about the current wars going on and we began discussing things from a Biblical perspective (both are Christians). It turns into a discussion of trusting God which turns back to our conversation the night before. He says today that he thinks there is a reason we are in each other's lives and I'm a great person and he doesn't want to throw things away, but he needed to be true to his feelings which were telling him to go with the flow right now and see what happens. I said that I am good with that and have come to peace with whatever happens with us and if I needed to date others while still pursuing things with him so be it. He then asks to get together the following night. Last night he comes over and everything is normal and at the end of the night, I get my goodbye hug. So I say all that to ask, do you think he really is moving this slow because of unsure feelings or am I slowly getting friendzoned? It seems like a lot of effort on his part (daily communication, helping with all the computer/printer problems I've had, regularly getting together) for just friends, but since there is really little romantic affection I am thoroughly confused. Edited August 10, 2014 by katinlc too long
Assasda Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 Yeah, I think he's insecure about something personally right now, and he's not ready for a relationship. He may have some personal problems, and he just doesnt feel equipped to go there with you right now.
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