Francesco2 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 Hi there, I have created this account on the forum to post this question, as I am at a loss as to what to do and I need advice. I am 23 and so is my ex. We were dating for about a year, and everything went well. We had a perfect relationship at a point and we were very much in love. We had talked about marriage, children, and a future together. Things started to get rocky when I would discover she would lie about certain things. They are things that are from her past but things that I feel that I should have been told. For example, she told me that I was her second sexual experience, where I was actually her twelfth. Things like this don't seem to bother me but for such a long time I felt as if I was only her second but there were ten others. We had a little argument but it wasn't that big of a deal and she assured me she would never lie about something like that again. She lied several more times and each time I would just forgive her and she would assure me she would never lie again. I'm quite an honest guy and I just felt as if I couldn't trust her with what she told me a lot of the time and we had an argument about that and it led to us deciding that we wanted to take a two week break, just to focus on ourselves. We lasted about a week before she messaged me saying that she missed me too much and we decided to get back together. We saw each other once and she was very blunt, awkward and would barely look at me, then the same thing happened again. She then broke up with me the next day labelling her reason and she simply, "doesn't love me anymore". I know there was no other guy or anything of the sort but I was broken. I loved her. I haven't spoken to her in about six months but I just can't seem to move on. I have tried to meet other women but I feel that they will never be as good as my ex. She was literally perfect in my eyes and I could easily see myself being with her for the rest of my life. I have deleted messages, gotten rid of reminders, and done all of the things that would normally help, but I find myself thinking about her every single day. I miss her, but she doesn't want to hear from me ever again. I don't know what to do, I feel as if I am doomed to be in love with a girl that left me so suddenly. She was the most incredible human I have ever met and I don't know how to release myself from this. Any advice would be so greatly appreciated.
Noproblem Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 You will forget her. It will take time. Some people have a tendency to lie, they do it all the time. It was your choice to decide that was not working for you, and she knew that you won't accept her continuous lying so she ended it with another lie " I don't love you anymore!" She probably moved on by now, or not.. She will keep on lying...Maybe she'll find a less smart guy to figure this out, or someone who can love her despite her lies. For me, I wouldn't ..I couldn't I mean I like to listen to their lies, but inside this will hurt me, as I seldom lie.... It's hard to get over her, when you still love her so much.. You have to change something about your life. meet new people, doesn't have to be new girlfriends, but just some new people and try to have some fun Really 23 is too early to be serious and thinking about marriage.. Go enjoy your life....... again, I know your pain is hard, it's not the just the pain it's the thing that posses you. You can't see other girls as you see her.. But this will fade eventually, might take another 6 months Or you can try to get back to her...but she'll keep on lying, so you might as well accept that..
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