alphamale Posted February 28, 2005 Posted February 28, 2005 Originally posted by Butterfly28 So, no, I don't necessarily think that ALL women/men who have sex on the first date it leads to something short term. please show me, BUTTERFLY28, where exactly I said ALL...I said usually and i also said there are exceptions.
Author Linlin Posted March 1, 2005 Author Posted March 1, 2005 Since he is emailing me, should I wait for him to ask me to do something this weekend. I know he is childless this weekend. Or should I ask him if he is interested in doing something? Whose turn is it???
alphamale Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 Originally posted by Linlin Whose turn is it??? the boy should ask the gurl, esp early on in the "dance". don't be too assertive early on, most dudes don't like that. play the part of a more submissive and sexy, feminine love kitten. then later on you can show him what u are really like
Author Linlin Posted March 1, 2005 Author Posted March 1, 2005 OK I'll wait. You were right last time. However, I am too old to be a love kitten. At my age, I am more like the horney "cougar" that is in her prime. It so hard to be patient especially when you want it all the time and aren't getting it.
alphamale Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 Originally posted by Linlin It so hard to be patient especially when you want it all the time and aren't getting it. Look lady...i could write a few chapters in that book.
Author Linlin Posted March 1, 2005 Author Posted March 1, 2005 It really is true what they say about women reaching their prime about 40. I don't ever remember feel this keyed up all the time, even as a teenager.
elle naturelle Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 Im 26 and permanently KEYED UP... does that mean I will not be able to control myself at 40? As for asking him out, wait for him.... YOU GO GIRL!
Author Linlin Posted March 1, 2005 Author Posted March 1, 2005 You are going to be in trouble girl!!!! In all seriousness, I would like to meet someone for a relationship. He could have potential. I guess I'll have to wait and be the master of my own domain. I will continue with the email flirting tomorrow and wait for him to ask about this weekend. I did take it as a good sign that he emailed me today and said sorry that he didn't have more time to talk to me at the show though. Then he sent me a dirty picture joke.
iceisles Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 Originally posted by elle naturelle Im 26 and permanently KEYED UP... does that mean I will not be able to control myself at 40? As for asking him out, wait for him.... YOU GO GIRL! I'm a 25yo guy, and I'm only keyed up now and then. Is it true that men lose some of their drive once they hit their 20's?
Author Linlin Posted March 1, 2005 Author Posted March 1, 2005 I am not sure. I have had a couple of flings. The two most awsome were with a 39 year old and a 25 year old. The 39 year old knew what he was doing and we totally connected. We never slept when I spent the night there. It was the same for the 25 year old. The only difference was that with the 25 year old there was NO down time. I think there are people who like doing it and really get into it and there are others who don't. I think I was born this way.
elle naturelle Posted March 1, 2005 Posted March 1, 2005 I think guys stabilize.... we get crazier.... Linlin, Im in the same boat.... I think I have found someone but want to take it slow. He called me last night too... we talked and joked around, planned more things for this week and weekend... now I am SOO nervous to have him for dinner and stuff tomorrow.... maybe Ill go see what movies are in for tomorrow... Dating is a ROLLERCOASTER... I think I am ready to end this ride.
Author Linlin Posted March 1, 2005 Author Posted March 1, 2005 I was planning on taking it slow but yah know...several glasses of wine and vodkas later and I had no resistance or willpower to resist. He is very sexual and so am I, not outwardly in your face but the kind that when you get them behind closed doors..... I think that the contact from him is a good sign and that he is initiating the emails a good one. It is easier to talk by email for us during working hours because of our crazy home lives right now. My parents are living with me while they build a house, he has the same situation, we both have kids, no privacy etc. I can't talk easily on the phone at work and neither can he, but we can email. I was very happy to see his email pop up especially after feeling awkward running into him at the show with the kids. Keep your fingers crossed for me.
Author Linlin Posted March 3, 2005 Author Posted March 3, 2005 He emailed me every day. Sometimes several times a day, with the nice chit chat and the sexual overtones and then I got this yesterday afternoon: In the past week or so i have been talking to my ex-girlfriend from November ( when we broke up). We decided to give it another try. So i have to take myself off the market. Sorry if i messed things up. Nice eh! I just told him good luck and no hard feelings, blah, blah!!!!! He emailed me back and said thanks for being so understanding, Oh well, I didn't burn bridges with him. Someone said ex's are ex's for a reason. You never know if I will hear from him again. He asked me to send him an email every once in a while. I am going out with married friends tomorrow night to a bar to hear my brother's band. One of them phone and asked me if they just happened to know this single guy and he happened to show up would I be offended. I said why not. You just never know.
elle naturelle Posted March 3, 2005 Posted March 3, 2005 Wow! You deserve better than that. He should have been more up front with you.... in the end, you deserve better. In fact, I would not even email him or anything. If he asks you out, say no, you are busy, but maybe some other time (like a few days later at your convenience). Thats if you feel you must try to date HIM again. There are many more fish in the sea. Do not settle for anything less. As for my story... I am in the complete other boat. We are getting along TOO WELL. Its scary and overwhelming. He has slept over two nights in a row and has already made some pretty powerful statements. I am starting to wonder if that "you know when you know" myth is actually for real. Is there anything I should be cautious about? In the end, as long as we hold our ground and maintain our integrity, live to love and love to live, I think (and hope) it will all work out....
Author Linlin Posted March 3, 2005 Author Posted March 3, 2005 NO real advice. Enjoy yourself, just don't use the L word too soon. I am happy for you. My turn will come. Even the friends who set us up are shocked and disappointed with him. My attitude is that I had some "fun". I f it is not meant to be it is not meant to be. I'll let you know if anything pops up this weekend. PM if you want. I have to go right now.
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