GTO06 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 Here is a tough one. Which do think would be worse/most pathetic: Being a 30 year old virgin or loosing your virginity to a prostitute?
Lernaean_Hydra Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 I'd rather lose it to a hooker tbh. But, being a 30yr ld virgin I guess. You might not have write some sort of guilty plea if I have to...well, anything. 1
Grilled_Salmon Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 If a guy is still a virgin by the time he's 30, and subsequently lose it to a prostitute....then what does that make him? :3 In all honesty though, I really hope neither will happen to me, but then again, there's probably a fairly decent chance it will. Even though I'm only 21.
No Limit Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 Depends on the person this is about. If he has more important priorities than sexuality I guess he has other things to worry about. If it's something you need for yourself, then go ahead. On the other hand, why not wait until your career's set and you got enough money on your little finger to attract a few gold diggers? They may not be relationship material, but I'm sure they'll take your virginity too for a pretty necklace or something. Then again, isn't that just the same thing like payment for sex = prostitution?
gaius Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 I'd probably have more respect for the 30 year old virgin. As long as he was honest about it. There's a few of them that run around pretending like they've had sex and it's awful, makes me cringe. 1
Author GTO06 Posted August 10, 2014 Author Posted August 10, 2014 Thanks for the responses so far guys. I have 2 months left before hitting that 30 mark and this is a personal dilemma of mine. It used to never bug me that I had no experience with women until I realized how fast my 20s shot by without a single attempt to get a girl due to focusing on other things I thought were more important. I just started dating this year for the first time ever and my very first date made me realize how odd it seems to others that I haven't had sex or even a GF at my age. She was going on and on about her previous relationships and eventually asked me how my last girlfriend was; a question I did not expect at all on a first date. I decided to tell the truth that I never had one before and it totally killed my confidence for the rest of the date. I think it kind of scared her off a bit too even though she said it was fine. I am a truthful guy at heart but up until recently I just chose to lie about the virginity/GF thing to avoid embarrassing conversations. I got to find some way out of my current virgin/never had a GF status. I'm getting dates ever once in a while, had about 6 this summer, but despite me thinking they go well I've yet to have a 2nd date with any of them. I'm just not sure what to do about this pathetic situation
newmoon Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 don't lie, just don't mention it. why even disclose that type of thing unless you're in bed with someone or know you will be? seems like you're giving away too much info. that could wait until much later on. it's not like virgin is stamped on your forehead so unless you tell a woman she won't know. keep it private. and it would be kinda pathetic to go to a prostitute after all this time. you might as well wait a few more years for a real relationship. i waited til my 30s too for who knows why, and who cares. i told one person, the person i slept with the first time and not just "dates" i went on - they didn't need to know.
Author GTO06 Posted August 10, 2014 Author Posted August 10, 2014 don't lie, just don't mention it. why even disclose that type of thing unless you're in bed with someone or know you will be? seems like you're giving away too much info. that could wait until much later on. it's not like virgin is stamped on your forehead so unless you tell a woman she won't know. keep it private. and it would be kinda pathetic to go to a prostitute after all this time. you might as well wait a few more years for a real relationship. i waited til my 30s too for who knows why, and who cares. i told one person, the person i slept with the first time and not just "dates" i went on - they didn't need to know. Sorry, maybe I wasn't clear. My first date asked about former GFs, not my virginity. I really doubt any date would ask that, but not even having a GF before is pretty hard for them to comprehend and tough to admit on its own.
newmoon Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 Sorry, maybe I wasn't clear. My first date asked about former GFs, not my virginity. I really doubt any date would ask that, but not even having a GF before is pretty hard for them to comprehend and tough to admit on its own. well, saying you've never had a gf will lead most to assume you also have no experience, so essentially you're telling a date the same thing. just be vague, say you date often but haven't had a true relationship. that would cover it, and still be honest, right? it is a huge red flag, but there are worse ones, like "i'm 40 and still live with mom." women are fairly accepting creatures when we like a man.
Author GTO06 Posted August 10, 2014 Author Posted August 10, 2014 well, saying you've never had a gf will lead most to assume you also have no experience, so essentially you're telling a date the same thing. just be vague, say you date often but haven't had a true relationship. that would cover it, and still be honest, right? it is a huge red flag, but there are worse ones, like "i'm 40 and still live with mom." women are fairly accepting creatures when we like a man. Well actually, since that was the first date I've ever been on, that wouldn't have been an honest response in that case; however I could use that now since I have had a few dates. That first one totally painted me into a corner though, lol. I hope something changes for me soon though; it's getting pretty tough living with this in the back of my mind all the time. I would even settle for a first kiss for now, but haven't made it that far yet either unfortunately.
Lernaean_Hydra Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 I'd rather lose it to a hooker tbh. But, being a 30yr ld virgin I guess. You might not have write some sort of guilty plea if I have to...well, anything. Wow, I have no idea what I was even saying here but I'm certain this is the product of Lunestra because I have no recollection of writing this and I thought I went to bed at 1:20 yet this was posted at 2AM . Yikes. 3
gaius Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 Wow, I have no idea what I was even saying here but I'm certain this is the product of Lunestra because I have no recollection of writing this and I thought I went to bed at 1:20 yet this was posted at 2AM . Yikes. It actually made sense to me at the time when I read it. Probably the avatars influence. 1
Author GTO06 Posted August 11, 2014 Author Posted August 11, 2014 (edited) There is no way I would let myself hit 30 and still be a virgin. If I couldn't get laid through normal channels, I would definitely see a pro. I couldn't imagine having to go that long in life without ever having sex with a woman. Yea, I know, I put it off for way too long. Well, I guess I'll give it my all for one more month to try to find a GF, then might have to start looking for an escort I guess, maybe, still not really sure what to so If I do though, my other concern is legality. Prostitution is not legal in my area and I DO NOT want to get in trouble for something like that! With my luck, I'm sure the one I would find would end up being a cop and make the situation 10 times as bad. I would hate to have to travel all the way to Nevada though just to keep it legal, lol. Ugh, what a nice mess this is Edited August 11, 2014 by GTO06
serial muse Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 Wow, I have no idea what I was even saying here but I'm certain this is the product of Lunestra because I have no recollection of writing this and I thought I went to bed at 1:20 yet this was posted at 2AM . Yikes. I spent a few minutes rereading, earnestly giving it a try, but gave up eventually. Nice to know it wasn't just me. 1
Lipitor11 Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 The 2nd one. There is really nothing wrong with being a 30-year old virgin.
Giggle Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 One of my guy friends was 32. Ahh we had such interesting conversations lol.
Author GTO06 Posted August 12, 2014 Author Posted August 12, 2014 There is really nothing wrong with being a 30-year old virgin. How do you figure that? I can't even bring myself to tell people close to me about it when related topics come up. I always chose to lie about it and just play it off like I'm not one, despite being the honest guy I am. It's just really eating me up as of late.
Author GTO06 Posted August 12, 2014 Author Posted August 12, 2014 Maybe I am just putting too much focus on the age thing. I guess the good part is that I've only ever even attempted pursuing woman this last year and succeeded in getting several dates this summer so far; at least that is something. It's not like I tried and failed for 10 years. It is just the level of sexual frustration I have right now about this is enough to to blow down a building! At least is I have a motivator
Lernaean_Hydra Posted August 12, 2014 Posted August 12, 2014 I spent a few minutes rereading, earnestly giving it a try, but gave up eventually. Nice to know it wasn't just me. Haha, but then be ME and read that post sneering and laughing like "Oh my god, what idiot wrote this gibberish!?" Only for your eyes to scan up and slowly realize...the idiot was you! 1
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