GTO06 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 Hey guys, new here Several months ago I got some good help over at the Askmen forums that I appreciated, but those forums seem to be dead now so I figured I would try here for some follow up help. Ok, here is the deal. I'm a 29 year old guy that up until this last year has had absolutely no girl experience whatsoever. I mean this truly too, never had a GF, a first date, sex, a kiss, or even held hands with a girl. I made it my mission to change all this year as it is the last year of my 20s and I really don't want to be a 30 year old virgin that has never had a GF. I have made some drastic changes to my life style this year and have had a great time putting in the effort of getting a GF. I have hit every event I could find this summer and tried several online dating sites somewhat successfully. So far, I have managed to get 6 dates, which for me is a HUGE step. All the dates went well and we had good conversation and flirting and such. All of them were good looking girls too, which was cool. So here is my problem now. Although I have managed to get 6 dates, none of them made it to a 2nd date and I'm not really sure why. A couple of the girls I just didn't really connect with so I didn't attempt a second date. The others I felt more attracted to, but they all either declined the 2nd date request or didn't respond at all to follow up messages. If a girl had a good time on a date and we both had fun as well as shared common interests and such, why would they decline a second date or stop communication all together? It just doesn't make sense to me I have a bout 2 months left before I turn 30 and I really, really want a GF and or sex before then! Any advice for me on how to kick this up a notch? Thanks!
Moonborn Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 I have a bout 2 months left before I turn 30 and I really, really want a GF and or sex before then! Any advice for me on how to kick this up a notch? Thanks! Drop this attitude. If a girl smells even a vague scent of this in you (and they are pretty good at that) she will run away as fast as she can. Try to see the good side of this: you got 6 dates. You can't really expect to jump from being totally clueless about girls to having them all at your feet in a few months right? Keep getting experience and don't stress too much over it, it will work out eventually. 1
Author GTO06 Posted August 10, 2014 Author Posted August 10, 2014 Thanks for that, but I don't show that intent in any way to them; it's just an internal goal of mine. I guess it's not the end of the world if I don't get one by then, but it will be very depressing to me personally if it doesn't happen soon.
Author GTO06 Posted August 10, 2014 Author Posted August 10, 2014 I would love to hear more feedback on this. Thanks
Weezy1973 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 Hey guys, new here So here is my problem now. Although I have managed to get 6 dates, none of them made it to a 2nd date and I'm not really sure why. A couple of the girls I just didn't really connect with so I didn't attempt a second date. The others I felt more attracted to, but they all either declined the 2nd date request or didn't respond at all to follow up messages. If a girl had a good time on a date and we both had fun as well as shared common interests and such, why would they decline a second date or stop communication all together? It just doesn't make sense to me Any advice for me on how to kick this up a notch? Thanks! This would happen when the girl isn't attracted to you for whatever reason. I'm a guy and this has happened many times on my end and is not at all uncommon with online dating. I wouldn't ask out a woman again if I wasn't attracted. There were a few in particular where the conversation was great, tons of laughing, and we had a really good time - but I just wasn't attracted. No biggie. That's why you go out on dates. How to kick it up a notch? Don't worry about it. You're not doing anything wrong per se, you just don't happen to be right for these particular women. You're getting dates, which is great. Keep asking women out. Try all sorts o of different types of date ideas and have fun!
Assasda Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 Well, I thinbk youre going about it the wrong way OP. Its like you have some agenda that youre going in on dates with. Its kinda like you dont really enjoy the women and you just want to fulfill this goal that you made for yourself. You daid you went on 6 dates, but you havent stated if you really even liked any of the women, Its just like you were going to settle for a 2nd date with a woman that you didnt even like. When you value yourself OP, it becomes much easier. First of all, You must give of an air of desperation and manservantness. which women might enjoy but not find attractive. Read The Way Of The Superior Man by David Deida
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