Joelopez Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 My Ex girlfriend has texted me that she would like to work things out again, she has texted me,she still cares, loves, and misses me, she also has said she thinks about breaking up with him and getting back with me alot, she twice lied about beign single and I fell for it we had sex she slept over, had more sex then it was just back to the way things were before we were still not together and she was still with her boyfriend. It's a very stupid and weird situation to be in after you find out things haven't changed, I have not told her I miss her and love her etc. I begin to wonder why she is doing this behind her boyfriends back and not when she is single? I do feel bad for kinda helping her cheat without me knowing it at the time. Is she really a cheat and not worth it or does she really miss me and is afraid that I don't feel the same way she does since I don't tell her I miss her etc. I mean i can't tell her those things she has a boyfriend, maybe if she didn't I would of made an effort. If it matters we were together for 5 years but she broke up with me because she felt I wasn't there for her as much, she felt that I didn't love her the same anymore, I don't cheat on her or hit her or was verbally abusive or things like that, about a month after we broke up she got into a new relationship. If anyone can help with advice or have been through a similar situation it would really help.
Lernaean_Hydra Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 She feeds on attention and you give her a steady stream of it. When she feels you may be losing interest or no longer into her games she dangles the possibility of a reconciliation in front of you and maybe a little sex. Understand this and understand it well, she does not love, need or want you, merely your validation. She does not want you to truly move on so she inserts herself into your life in order to make sure you're still stuck on her meanwhile, she's free to do as she pleases. She broke up with you, yet made you out to be the bad guy. This girl is a classic manipulator and you're falling for it...every time. Stop feeding her ego and shatter her delusions of superiority by cutting off contact for good and showing her that the days of her wielding power over you are long gone. Or you know, continue to be her lapdog...your choice. 1
Dork Vader Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 The above is spot on. You need to just move on with your life. If she loved you and really wanted back with you none of this would be going on. Even if she does want to get back together.. How in the world would you trust her?!?! Look at what she has put you through. I would not say a word to her. The silence will drive her nuts. Just block her number and remove her from your life. If you feel you must send her a final good bye and sum it to I'm not going to put myself through these games and lyes anymore. Good bye, 1
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