CrystalCastles Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 Luckily I've never had a date try to get fresh with me, but it would not be well received. Oh it was definitely not well received! After the doofuses in question tried these little tricks, I kicked them to the curb! Haha. Okay. I don't think I need to repeat any of what I said above. I prefer to move slow. Every relationship I have been in, up until my most recent, moved very slowly. And guess what? I liked each and every guy! I was crazy about each one! That's why I started relationships with them. And that's what I don't understand about guys. Why is it, that when a woman wants to move slow, it automatically means she's not very interested, or she doesn't find the guy hot, or [insert random excuse here]. I move slow. I like moving slow. Maybe it doesn't stop the jerks from trying things but I feel like the probability of getting a jerk decreases if the girl moves slow. I also take a very long time to warm up to people. I'm introverted and I love my "me" time, and prefer it to the company of people. So I like to wait a bit and take some time to warm up to someone to see if they are genuine, worth liking and worth my time. It's absolutely got nothing to do with physical attraction. My boyfriend's a gorgeous guy, I waited. The guy before him was very good looking too, I waited. I'm a functioning member of the human species, not some kind of animal. The couple minutes of rush that I'll get from a hot and heavy makeout session and groping isn't worth the amount of pain I could be feeling later if the guy turned out to be a user. 1
Phoe Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 I move slow. I like moving slow. Maybe it doesn't stop the jerks from trying things but I feel like the probability of getting a jerk decreases if the girl moves slow. I also take a very long time to warm up to people. I'm introverted and I love my "me" time, and prefer it to the company of people. So I like to wait a bit and take some time to warm up to someone to see if they are genuine, worth liking and worth my time. My ex almost got himself kicked to the curb by being too forward. We'd been dating for maybe a month, and we were chatting over Xbox live while playing a video game. Outta nowhere he starts trying to sexy talk and call me "nasty" and I was just appalled lol. I went silent. I signed off and went to bed shortly after. We texted later and I was quite direct in telling him "If you're only in this to get sex, you can go ahead and take off now. I don't like to be talked to like that." He apologized, explained that he was interested in ME and wasn't just looking for sex, and a month later we finally had sex. And then he almost immediately dumped me. *sigh* Haha 1
preraph Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 Less talking about fishing around and more doing. It all comes down to confidence. But there are some guys who are charming but not so confident, but they need to buck up and stop waiting for lightning to strike before they bust a move. 1
smackie9 Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 Well, to each their own. If we all liked the same type of guy, well that would be a bit of a problem for the human race, no? I'm also a very aggressive, dominant and in-your-face kind of girl. However, I don't like my dominant position to be challenged or questioned. Hence why my boyfriend's more submissive, quiet personality keeps me grounded because I can get carried away with the b*tchiness real easy. And if you're assuming that our makeout sessions weren't "passionate", or that they were "romantic fluff", nope. Our first kissing session was so aggressive that my jaw was sore for a few days after and I had scraped a few layers of skin off my chin because of his stubble. A wound that took about a week to heal (but I didn't care!). As Phoe pointed out, its nice to see a guy being able to control his urges. And I really don't see how its possible to "call the shots" when a guy is aggressive, because from my personal experience, aggressive guys are the ones who like calling the shots. I don't have a "type" really. I have dated all kinds of men, short fat skinny and tall. As for dating assertive men, they found me refreshing, and liked the change. It works just fine.
CrystalCastles Posted August 11, 2014 Posted August 11, 2014 My ex almost got himself kicked to the curb by being too forward. We'd been dating for maybe a month, and we were chatting over Xbox live while playing a video game. Outta nowhere he starts trying to sexy talk and call me "nasty" and I was just appalled lol. I went silent. I signed off and went to bed shortly after. We texted later and I was quite direct in telling him "If you're only in this to get sex, you can go ahead and take off now. I don't like to be talked to like that." He apologized, explained that he was interested in ME and wasn't just looking for sex, and a month later we finally had sex. And then he almost immediately dumped me. *sigh* Haha Ew. I think there's a term for that kind of guy, Phoe, and that term is "loser". I think you should count your blessings because that loser did you a huge favour. 1
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