rocketboy9 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 There was a woman that I tried to date a number of years ago but the timing was off. She had just come out of a relationship with a cop. We went out once and though we had fun, she wasn't ready and I got the speech about how busy she was. I got the message so I backed off. But we continued being friendly. She has become very emotionally dependent on me as I am a pretty supportive guy. I am careful not to invest to much of myself because I am very aware of the friend zone which I assume I am in and being the infamous emotional tampon. A while back she mentioned that she was seeing her ex-boyfriend again - its casual and friendly. I said to her I knew that was going to happen as she has broken up with this guy like 3-4 times yet they get back together. She was somewhat insulted when I said it. As of late though she has become much more aggressive to me. Never mentions the boyfriend and wanting to know when she will see me and when she does see me she touches me a LOT. She even told me she would go to the beach with me but she has been sick on/off. I was at the beach today and said I should pick up a beach bunny for myself. I was teasing her and said I have never seen her in her famous white bikini. Than she proceeded to describe the bikini and her body in detail - big breasts, tiny waist, blah, blah. I am not sure what to make of this - does she want me to hit on her again and tell her I want her (which I do of course). But I always kind of assumed she knew that and just liked the attention that I provide. I am hesitant to put myself out there with her again as it has not gone anywhere in the past.
Dork Vader Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 Hmm Dangerous territory you're in.. Potential for it to go some place is almost certain if you play your card rights and get lucky. Potential for serious injury is also very high. My female friends do not make physical contact with me aside from a hug every once in a great while. She would not be describing her body to you if she did not want to turn you on or get a reaction out of you. She could be using it as a means to just boost her ego while dealing with her ex. This is what I find most likely to be the case. She could also have intentions behind it. You might not realize it but the fact that she is coming off the market could have made you change your behavior. Suddenly she is viewing in a different way. But no matter if it is the ego boost or she's viewing differently. She has opened the door a bit. It's now your job to walk through it if that's what you want.
Assasda Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 Sounds like youre into the deep friendzone. The one where you are basically and Asexual bestfriend. You never tell a woman how you feel btw You dont seem to have a question, so I think youre just venting
gaius Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 There's nothing wrong with occasionally banging your head against a wall if the girl is one of the few worth it. The only real tragedy is if you die will lots of missed opportunities under your belt.
preraph Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 Unless you like the dependent type she is, I wouldn't pursue her. But if you do, then you at least need to wait until it's been like a year since she was leaning on her ex. She does sound like an attention sponge.
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