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I've posted before, it just keeps getting more ridiculous. Here are some highlights...

 

- My toddler wakes up crying in the night - boyfriend leaves.

- He was working out so much he was too exhausted to hang out with me. When he did...he was so tired he would barely talk to me.

- Decided discipling children is necessary, but discipling dog isn't. He can tell my son no but not his dogs.

- He's good friends with the ex-wife. She has keys to his place, he's picking her up from the airport, dog sits her dogs, let's her get her mail at his house etc. The list goes on. I mean be friends with her...but boundaries.

- NOW he lies about a woman who was just friends and they used to hang out. He planned to meet up with her but had to babysit for a friend (the friend being me). His response to wanting to get together with her and calling me his friend...he just needed an ego boost. Just wanted her to flirt with him for the day. He is insecure like that and isn't proud of it.

 

Now he wants to continue our relationship and loves me and wants a future with me. He messed up and he's so sorry - he'll be more open and honest with me.

 

Are you kidding me!? lol I'm supposed to trust him from here on out that he won't need another ego boost when things get rough. Whew.

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It is time for you to move on from this relationship.

 

 

The biggest issue is not his ex wife, dog or any of that. Those were all things that could easily be dealt with via a discussion.

 

 

But what he did with this female "friend" is not something you will over come. He straight out LIED to another woman about having a relationship with you. Which means he either does not feel you two have one or he is not committed to you. He also has likely not been honest with you about this woman and who she is.

 

 

You can not have trust with honesty, openness and being forthcoming. He was NONE of these things in the above situation. When people get caught cheating one of three things happen. They throw in the towel to the relationship. Get defensive of their actions, justify their actions then up the ante in terms of "love" and what they want, OR they out right admit they screwed up (which is rare) and try to fix the relationship.

 

 

The only success I have seen with cheaters is if they admit they screwed up once they are caught. Cheating in my opinion is ANY violation of the commitment the person has made to you.

 

 

Stay clear of insecure people. They are not ready for relationships and must deal with their insecurities before they can be in a healthy relationship. Their insecurities are like a black hole in the middle of their soul. They try to feed this black hole with attention from other people. The attention they seek is more then any one person is capable of giving. Thus they constantly put themselves in compromising situations.

 

 

That's not to say run every time a person speaks of being a little insecure. We all have insecurities from time to time. But a simple discussion between you and your partner can resolve the insecurity right then and there.

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I feel really sorry for you.

Please prioritize your kids. This guy you are calling boyfriend seems to be a loser without remedy and i don't understand why a woman would like to be treated like a doormat.

 

I guess sex is good with him because otherwise I don't understand why you keep insisting on thus relationship.

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Yeah...we've always connected so well. He's a great guy when he isn't being a egocentric, self centered, turd. He's caring, thoughtful, sensative, great with my son...but I don't think I can look past this.

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"He's a great guy when he isn't being a egocentric, self centered, turd."

 

 

Those are not definitions you'd find under great guy. Neither are insecure or promiscuous.

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He never told me when he was picking his ex-wife up from the airport, so I asked in a round about kind of way. It's Tuesday night, so no he doesn't have to take any vacation time....but Tuesday night is a night that we usually hang out and it is definitely the night he stays the night with me. Well, apparently not this Tuesday night. He didn't bother to tell me, ask me or give me a heads up. I'll see you Wednesday. Yeah....ok.

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