JoL Posted February 26, 2005 Posted February 26, 2005 So..i have been broken up with my ex for about 2 1/2 months now..AND I COULDN'T BE HAPPIER!!! Just recently though, it seems like guys are popping up unexpectadly..i had an encounter with a different ex (not the most recent ex, the encounter was with an ex from a year ago) the previous week and just last night i met a guy whilst out with my friends. There has also been a guy at work flirting around..but that is just a bit of fun. The ex from last week and i slept together, it was a one nighter though as neither of us have rekindled feelings for the other or anything like that, and since then we have been talking and getting along fine, neither of us want a relationship with the other, we are just happy to hang out and be friends. The guy i met last night is the FIRST guy ive given my number to from a nightclub. He was really nice and funny, we talked a fair bit and exchaged numbers and have been msging eachother a bit, he asked me to hang out with him tomorrow. Now, i just want to know the rules in this situation- i am NOT looking for a relationship, i just want to hang out and have a good time (i dont mean sexually). Do i need to tell the ex i am hanging out with someone if he asks? or is it all my personal business at this stage what im doing? The ex and i are NOT in love with eachother, we are really good friends who just happened to have a physical encounter last weekend. Other than that, we are friends, we have a knack for being able to talk about anything.
humph.. Posted February 27, 2005 Posted February 27, 2005 If u and your ex are really close as u said, then i dont see what the harm in telling him is. U dont NEED to, but if you share what happens in eachothers lives then thats different i guess. Whether you have to tell him- then no- u dont HAVE to tell either of them, neither is your boyfriend, so u shouldnt feel like u need to disclose the fact that u hang out with your ex or that u hung out with a guy.
prncssfce9 Posted February 27, 2005 Posted February 27, 2005 I think you need to ask yourself wheter or not you truly know how your ex feels. There is a fabulous quote from a wonderful movie that speaks volumes about how men really feel .... "No man can be friends with a woman he finds attractive, he always wants to have sex with her" Now in your case, the two of you have ALREADY had sex ... this, to me anyway, would make me think that your ex will become jelous if he knew about this other guy. Not because he doesn't want you to be happy, but because he probably doesn't want to share you ... even if he lacks romantic feelings for you. Men are very territorial that way. Also, I have to wonder why you would be persuing a relationship with this new guy if you quote " do NOT want a relationship" If you don't want a relationship why go through the motions of looking for one? Just a question ....
ziggue Posted February 27, 2005 Posted February 27, 2005 I think the new guy will have a problem with the Ex. If he is hanging around while you two go out. He might be able to sense that you two had a thing in the past and will wanna know what's going on. You have to be honest with both of the guys not just your Ex. Everybody needs to know where they stand relationship wise or otherwise it will get too confusing and someone might end up getting hurt.
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