Superman2024 Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 I started chatting with a girl on OLD on Tues 7/29 and within an hour she agreed to move things to text so I left my number. The next day she sent me a text saying hi. After a few messages back and forth, the next day I asked when a good time to call her would be. This was on Thurs 7/31, but she said she was working until Tues so I could call her then. I thought five days was a long time just to talk, but I waited and we sent texts in between. When I reached her on Tues 8/5 I thought it was going well but it only lasted just over 10 minutes when she said she had to go meet her sister. She said she'd call or text me back but she didn't. The next day I sent her a text asking if she'd be interested in meeting at a Starbucks. She said she'd love to next week and I asked her what day she was free. This was on Wed 8/6 and still no response. She's always been slow to respond to texts (a couple hours to half the day) but now it's been nearly three days. She had on her profile that she was soft spoken and a bit shy. She also works a lot but I still think someone should make time to talk and respond faster to texts. What's weird is she took down her profile a couple days after we started texting. I get the feeling she is either too busy to date, is playing games, or isn't really that interested.
HappyLove Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 Don't take it personally. This happens A LOT! Tons of people go online just as an ego boost. They have no real interest in meeting up with the person who contacts them for a variety of reasons...married, fake photos, scared, really a man. Who cares really, if someone is so evasive from the beginning it's best to move on they are a guaranteed waste of time no matter what excuse they come up with. 2
Dork Vader Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 It's time to move on from this woman. She is not interested. If she is she is way to busy to have a relationship of any type beyond what it currently is. People will find time to date and see someone if they really want too. I'm not a huge fan of asking to do things on the males side of things. I personally get a better response if you just act. Instead of asking to call just call if she doesn't answer leave a message and she'll call/text you back. As for the dates it depends but I typically suggest we get coffee or drinks on let's say Thursday. If they can't they will tell you what date and time works for them. I'm also not a huge fan of asking for dates via text. You only should if they are texters and do not talk on the phone. If you ask via text you have to be careful how you word it. I can't think of how do it off the top of my head.. But it needs to be done in a confident way that is not really a question. But it also can't be forceful and back them in a corner. You also have to be careful with net dating. If the woman has never met anyone off of the net before you're going to have to build a comfort zone with them. That can take a bit of time (depends on how much you communicate) and every woman is different. 1
Author Superman2024 Posted August 9, 2014 Author Posted August 9, 2014 Yeah, I didn't take it personal since I know OLD is generally like this. It's just annoying and rude to treat people like this. I'd never tell someone I'd love to meet them and not follow through. If I changed my mind I'd at least say something. I personally like to exchange a couple texts first and ask when to call in order to avoid phone tag and see if she actually answers when she says. I agree it's generally best to ask to meet on the phone but it seemed like she was always working and seemed to prefer text anyway. I guess every situation is a little different depending on the person. Time to move on to the next one.
smackie9 Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 Nope you should just stop right now. She took her profile down because she is seeing someone, but that wouldn't be you.
phineas Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 I don't know who is dumber, people who have an active online dating profile then use the excuse they are too "busy" to get together and expect people to believe that or the people who actually believe that line of crap.
DazedandConfused8 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 I started chatting with a girl on OLD on Tues 7/29 and within an hour she agreed to move things to text so I left my number. The next day she sent me a text saying hi. After a few messages back and forth, the next day I asked when a good time to call her would be. This was on Thurs 7/31, but she said she was working until Tues so I could call her then. I thought five days was a long time just to talk, but I waited and we sent texts in between. When I reached her on Tues 8/5 I thought it was going well but it only lasted just over 10 minutes when she said she had to go meet her sister. She said she'd call or text me back but she didn't. The next day I sent her a text asking if she'd be interested in meeting at a Starbucks. She said she'd love to next week and I asked her what day she was free. This was on Wed 8/6 and still no response. She's always been slow to respond to texts (a couple hours to half the day) but now it's been nearly three days. She had on her profile that she was soft spoken and a bit shy. She also works a lot but I still think someone should make time to talk and respond faster to texts. What's weird is she took down her profile a couple days after we started texting. I get the feeling she is either too busy to date, is playing games, or isn't really that interested. She's done, not interested. Something happened in those 10 minutes that made her have to "go meet her sister."
Author Superman2024 Posted August 10, 2014 Author Posted August 10, 2014 She actually never said she was too busy to date but that's the impression I got. She was working two jobs and going to school. If the phone call lost her interest I'm not sure why she told me later that she'd love to meet.
smackie9 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 If she has two jobs and goes to school, wtf is she doing on a dating site? There is no point if all her time is taken up. I call bs. She is just using that crap to ward off unwanted suitors. Stop wasting your time on this shi t.
writteninreverse Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 Unless somebody or their family member is in emergency medical care, their is no excuse to not contact somebody back within 24 hours. I don't care how busy you are. Even a message to say, "hey i'm busy, can I call tomorrow?" can be done within 24-hours. If somebody doesn't do this, they aren't really interested. Move on.
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