tomtheman1234 Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 I went on a first date to the movies the Wednesday before last then went on a weeks holiday to Scotland. I text her to tell her that I was away on holiday. I text her last Sunday to ask her if she might like another date when I am back from my holiday. She said just enjoy my holiday. Last Wednesday she text to say she had feelings for someone she could not go out with snd not dure ehst to do. We kept texting after thst and wll seemed fine. Then on Friday morning i text her. I asked her if she would like to go on a second date when I get back from holiday on Saturday evening she said she felt ill and might have food poisoning and would see how she felt on Saturday. This morning she text to say she was tired. Is this the norm or not? Will I ever get a second date? Should I leave her for now and try my luck again next week or should I just move on?
smackie9 Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 LOL wow that food poisoning excuse is used more than you think. She's blowing ya off. As soon as she said she has feelings for some other guy, that right there is your signal to move on. Bro please have some self worth. You only had one date, stop investing so much of your time on her. She's already giving you nothing but excuses, it's time to go.
ktya Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 LOL wow that food poisoning excuse is used more than you think. She's blowing ya off. As soon as she said she has feelings for some other guy, that right there is your signal to move on. Bro please have some self worth. You only had one date, stop investing so much of your time on her. She's already giving you nothing but excuses, it's time to go. Ditto although I would keep texting her. You just had a date with her a few weeks ago. She went on another first date while you were away and she was enjoying him. There's a greater than 50% chance her and the guy will drift apart so keep texting and grinding her but leave the date stuff off the table. Avoid friend zoning yourself so call her names like babe, cutie or sweetie regularly and depending on the context if and when appropriate make comments about how she is cute/hot/sexy etc. I have done this to successfully reactivate girls who broke it off with me and started seeing someone else and even one girl who ended up with a boyfriend she still comes to see me for the boom boom. Stay secure in yourself keep dating others but we all know women and if they're seeing a guy all it takes is the slightest red flag, slight or missed call and they will go looking for validation somewhere else early on in dating. Depending on the girl (and given she somehow got feelings for someone else in under a week so she's probably a hit needy so this is quite plausible) she might spend day after day in a row with the guy and when he takes one night for his buddies she might get receptive real quick. For example the one girl I'm seeing who has a boyfriend I just text her nice regularly as though the boyfriend doesn't exist. I never bring him up unless she does and if she does its usually because he's pissed her off - which gives me an opportunity to make plans with her - and when they have a fight and she storms out of the house guess who she phones immediately? Me of course. Yeah I know I'm a prick but it's happened to me enough times and if it wasn't me it would be some other guy so may as well take advantage. Plus I was there first. :-P
Author tomtheman1234 Posted August 9, 2014 Author Posted August 9, 2014 (edited) Ok cheers for the advice. You both said what I was thinking. It's a shame as we had so much in common. She did not go on another first date with someone else when I was away. I think she jus has been by herself for a long time and not been on many dates before and might have feelings for her friend who is gay and so can not date him. Edited August 9, 2014 by tomtheman1234
smackie9 Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 I say have self worth.....''Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option''. She has her barriers up, she never wanted that second date. 1
Author tomtheman1234 Posted August 9, 2014 Author Posted August 9, 2014 Thanks for all the replys to my messages. I hope that he right girl is just around the corner. 1
smackie9 Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 What I have found the harder you look the harder it is to find that person. Let them find you
Author tomtheman1234 Posted August 9, 2014 Author Posted August 9, 2014 (edited) I stopped looking since February. Joined a dated agency sometime ago who put me in touch with a great girl and a mate hooked me up on Facebook with this girl and neither one seemed to of worked out. As said thanks for the advice. Strange she keeps texting me from time to time. Edited August 9, 2014 by tomtheman1234
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