Sad26 Posted August 9, 2014 Share Posted August 9, 2014 I am doing NC for the past 5 weeks, broke two weeks ago by sending a text message, received no reply, back to NC. However I check her twitter and FB every day. I have no control over me. She knows that I check her twitter so she keeps posting her happy life tweets, and a breakfast date picture (I assume she got a new bf the next day she stopped responding to me). I know she wants to hurt me so she is posting those tweets. How do I stop checking her posts. Please suggest. Seems I have no control and am a weak person. Link to post Share on other sites
Tbisb74 Posted August 9, 2014 Share Posted August 9, 2014 You haven't gone No Contact at all. You keep checking on her every day, that's breaking No Contact. You're even weaker than you thought. Close the accounts. Get someone to put a blocker on your computer. Better still, get rid of your PC for 6 weeks. I'm being absolutely serious. If you're this weak, you can't trust yourself online at all, can you? Link to post Share on other sites
hedyo Posted August 9, 2014 Share Posted August 9, 2014 The only reason you do this is because it gives you a false sense of control. However, monitoring your ex won't change their actions, and what (or who) they're doing isn't your business any more. It's not as though social media gives you an accurate picture of their life, anyway. Mature adults generally do not use social media to work through their emotional pain, and even those who are hurting badly do their best to seem happy and positive. Save yourself from any more distress, either unfriend/unfollow her or get away from the Internet for a few weeks. Link to post Share on other sites
learning_slowly Posted August 9, 2014 Share Posted August 9, 2014 Start to get a grip on your life and stop letting her control you. Block her on everything, its not that difficult with google. Then you can work on getting a better life without her. But its your choice - if you continue the way you are, you'll just be in pain longer. I know it can be hard and it will still take alot of time, but if you stop the reminders, she will fade in your memory alot faster, allowing you to move on and meet somebody better. Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sad26 Posted August 9, 2014 Author Share Posted August 9, 2014 Thanks for all the replies. This breakup has been pretty harsh as I didn't get any chance to say or talk. Everything was fine, she left for a temp job for 3 months, and after reaching that city, stopped answering my calls or responding to my text. She says that's her way of ending things. Days before leaving, she told me that she cheated on me with two guys, and I wanted to end it then, but she didn't let me. I was hoping to get one last chance of phone call or such but I didn't get that. No one has ever been this cruel to me before. Link to post Share on other sites
scobro Posted August 9, 2014 Share Posted August 9, 2014 No one has ever been this cruel to me before my ex didn't bother to end things when she met someone new showed up at her house in the morning and the guys car was there.Finally admitted it by saying to me "i know in my heart I can't trust you"...lol she cheats but justifys it by saying that. Then I called her and she puts the guy on the phone.I took her back stupidly when that ended.2 years later no ending things instead goes on Plenty of Fish then rents a room in her house to her ex boyfriend and says I can't come over anymore because he is there.Sleeps with his friend who is 18 years younger she is 50.Then tells me she is dating someone new after I ended things sends me a naked picture of her ex in her bed and sends me a picture of her new boyfriend.....all because I said I cannot handle this other men crap....evil and cruel Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sad26 Posted August 10, 2014 Author Share Posted August 10, 2014 my ex didn't bother to end things when she met someone new showed up at her house in the morning and the guys car was there.Finally admitted it by saying to me "i know in my heart I can't trust you"...lol she cheats but justifys it by saying that. Then I called her and she puts the guy on the phone.I took her back stupidly when that ended.2 years later no ending things instead goes on Plenty of Fish then rents a room in her house to her ex boyfriend and says I can't come over anymore because he is there.Sleeps with his friend who is 18 years younger she is 50.Then tells me she is dating someone new after I ended things sends me a naked picture of her ex in her bed and sends me a picture of her new boyfriend.....all because I said I cannot handle this other men crap....evil and cruel Seems there is no dearth of evil people. I can't understand how these people go to sleep at night. Let us hope that we get better and happy soon. Link to post Share on other sites
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