sickoflove11 Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 How do you move on after losing your best friend?? (or anyone you held so highly) I'm realizing my best friend doesn't value our friendship as much as I do and it's hurting me. Basically she said telling her an honest answer is not something a best friend would say, and that makes no sense (see previous post). Best friends wouldn't be honest? Didn't get that memo. Out of everything we have been through the answer to one question ended our friendship... (We live in different states so I can't meet up with her. We were together when I upset her but didn't confront me with how upset she was until I went home) I hold my relationships so highly that I only have 1 or 2 people I can call up and tell everything to. She was one of them so now I am so depressed and alone and I just want to get past this. She is not someone I want to lose by any means, but I am the only one always willing to fight for our friendship because I am always the bad guy. I can't hold on anymore. I'm not a very sensitive person and she is very much, so whenever I have a problem I just get over it because why make a big deal of little things in life when something is worth so much more? Being so close with someones family and extended family is just as painful knowing that I will now lose all of them in my life. I guess I am losing more than she is and that sucks. I have no other friends where I just moved so it's going to take a lot more to get my mind off it. Has anyone else lost someone so close to them? How did you move past all the thoughts and moments replaying in your head? I can't stop thinking of how to fix this and over analyzing everything but in reality I've apologized and what more should I really do when she could care less about our friendship anymore?
whichwayisup Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 As much as it hurts now, it'll get better as time goes on. Sorry that sounds cliche! Also you will see more in depth about how much effort you put in and what you didn't get back. Friends are supposed to be honest and tell it like it is. I expect my best friend to be up front and honest, no holes barred!! Sorry you're hurting, it does suck a lot when someone you're close to walks out of your life..Even more so when you're close with the whole family. Will go back and read your other thread, then reply more here. 1
Author sickoflove11 Posted August 9, 2014 Author Posted August 9, 2014 Thank you I appreciate your advice. I feel like I messed up here when I shouldn't, and the guilt is whats getting to me. I know she's taking what I said and making it sound as worse as possible in her head and probably changing my words around. I'm afraid she's telling people what I said, they way she heard it. I say a lot of things and then have to explain myself because I'm never very clear, it's always a problem. She didn't give me a chance to explain at the time and I'd be afraid to bring it up again.
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