zebo0145 Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 I'm a 5'7 Asian male, my close Asian friends happen to be handsome,5'11 to 6'3. Every time we go out to bars and they always have women throwing themselves at them. I'm not a jealous person at all but it's gotten to the point where I've let it become a source of insecurity for me. How do I achieve the same success they get while dealing with this handicap? I'm not a naturally outgoing person but I'm not shy either and I consider myself to be OK looking with a measure of confidence. I've been with girls in the past, though never from the bar/club scene. And for those of you who are familiar with Asian culture, Asian girls these days absolutely worship tall men, more so than any other race/ethnicity. I never seem to have success there especially when my group has better "catches". Frankly I've never been a fan of the scene in the first place, and I've pretty much stopped going unless its for a friend's birthday. Really what's the point? I feel bad because I always turn down invites when my friends go out and come up with some lame excuse. I'll never tell my friends that the real reason I don't go out with them anymore is due to my insecurities. It sucks having to turtle, should I just accept it?
Assasda Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 Well, you see it as a handicap. There is nothing we can do to change your mind. Youre just going to have to keep on being like that your whole life, or you can be a more confident person. Do you think youre the only short person in the world? I know a guy that is 5'2 and better with women than you an I. So you have 2 choice. Keep on being insecure, or change. Not rocketsurgery 1
Author zebo0145 Posted August 9, 2014 Author Posted August 9, 2014 Well, you see it as a handicap. There is nothing we can do to change your mind. Youre just going to have to keep on being like that your whole life, or you can be a more confident person. Do you think youre the only short person in the world? I know a guy that is 5'2 and better with women than you an I. So you have 2 choice. Keep on being insecure, or change. Not rocketsurgery I don't let it bother me in normal day to day life. But the insecurity is brought out of me when I'm out at bars/clubs with my friends when attractive physical attributes are much more important. Bottom line is if I don't go I don't feel insecure, so that's my way of dealing with it. Is this running away from the problem? Should I just learn to deal with it and suck it up?
Assasda Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 I don't let it bother me in normal day to day life. But the insecurity is brought out of me when I'm out at bars/clubs with my friends when attractive physical attributes are much more important. Bottom line is if I don't go I don't feel insecure, so that's my way of dealing with it. Is this running away from the problem? Should I just learn to deal with it and suck it up? Nope youre not running from the problem. Your dealing with it, and if thats how you chose to deal with it. Fine, no one can tell you what to do. So as I said before. So you have 2 choices. Keep on being insecure, or change. To break it down cerebrally, you are living in the past. You are letting your PAST emotions run your life. and influence how you feel about yourself. Youre not being a better person for the future. Living in the past is sometimes one of the most immature things a person can do. For obvious reasons
Eivuwan Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 I'm an Asian woman and you're taller than all my exs lol. Also why limit yourself to Asians and why all the focus on picking up girls at bars? If you want a date, there are lots of other ways to get one. I have never understood the bar scene. It's so nosy, how do people even communicate or get to know each other? 1
jay1983 Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 Lift weights!!!! That's what I tell all these short fu*kers on here crying.
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