Natsu21 Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 So I'm with this woman...and sometimes we both go to work and don't see each other for a while.... She constantly gets mad whenever a couple of girls comment on my pages on facebook, even when the suggestions are completely platonic... Well 3 times this week, I've had to tell her in the middle of conversations that I needed to go(whether it was for work, family, or business) and sometimes our talks are "intimate" well the one we had this morning, my internet's been spotty so I told her that if I cut off, it's because of the internet. So it did till this afternoon, so I see on her page that she said "Oh thanks for leaving me hanging." followed by "If you're not going to please me, I'll find someone else to do it." She pulls this card everytime something comes up, or if I don't want to talk, or I'm busy. And it's getting old. Whenever I'm in the mood and she isn't, I don't mind she tells me so. She told me that if I didn't feel like talking to her, or I was busy, to let her know, but whenever I do she says I'm avoiding her and tries to goad me into staying. This argument happened a day after she got into a minor wreck, but decided to flee the scene to go get her hair done. (Not sure but I think that's a hit and run, regardless of responsibility. She just laughed it off like it wasn't a big deal.) Before we met, she said she had two guys she occasionally had sex with. I personally don't believe women can carry on a fwb without someone catching feelings. But that's just my opinion, there are exceptions. I wonder if she really gave them up. Anyway guys, I feel like she's trying to control me. And here's what bugs the crap out of me. In an argument we had, I asked her "Supposed I am frame for a crime I didn't commit and I served a small bit in jail. Like 6 months. Would you wait for me?" Her answer "Well, I'd support you, but as a friend. Once you get out we can start it up again." My response "Why would I start it up if you're gonna be screwing guys behind my back?" She said "Won't you need a friend in jail?" I said "I have plenty of friends. What you said is selfish. You'd find someone else even if you knew I was innocent and trying to fight the case." "Well I can't put my life on hold for you! I have a life too, ya know!" But...if I don't feel like talking I'm a selfish jackass who doesn't care about her. Please tell me if I'm ovverreacting or was I in the right? Comment below.
Author Natsu21 Posted August 9, 2014 Author Posted August 9, 2014 We've been together for bout 7 months.
Smilecharmer Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 The threats of nexting you at every turn should be all the red flags you need. Time to find someone who adores you for you. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 Honestly? I think you both put each other in silly positions. She does it by threatening to find someone else when she doesn't get her way. You did by getting mad at her about her response to a hypothetical prison sentence (dafuq?) Move on. It's drama and you don't need it.
Author Natsu21 Posted August 9, 2014 Author Posted August 9, 2014 Honestly? I think you both put each other in silly positions. She does it by threatening to find someone else when she doesn't get her way. You did by getting mad at her about her response to a hypothetical prison sentence (dafuq?) Move on. It's drama and you don't need it. It's not really hypothetical. I'm in the middle of a case right now, my sister accused me of battery and I'm fighting the charges. The whole time she kept getting angry about my case and how bad it's gonna make me look. Like I chose to have my sister lie on me. I have to prove it in court. Instead, what I got was that she wouldn't wait on me if I spent too long in prison. So I said that if that were to happen she wouldn't wait, but support me as a friend. When I get out of prison we can pick things back up, according to her. O_O The answer wasn't hypothetical, I really am dealing with legal issues.
RonaldS Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 Anytime a woman says something like 'if you don't ______, I will find somebody who will', the appropriate response is always 'OK, go ahead and do that', and then end the conversation.
Assasda Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 7 months only and this sillyness? hahaha She sounds like she doesnt respect you - and for good reason - You sound very petty OP. So stop being petty and win her respect back. Or it will probably end bad for you
ffw Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 Doesn't sound like a healthy relationship. If within 7 months this is the case, imagine what will happen in the future. Don't walk on egg shells.
Author Natsu21 Posted August 9, 2014 Author Posted August 9, 2014 7 months only and this sillyness? hahaha She sounds like she doesnt respect you - and for good reason - You sound very petty OP. So stop being petty and win her respect back. Or it will probably end bad for you She lost respect? Explain.
Assasda Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 She lost respect? Explain. What do I explain? In your Original post -you dont know how she doesnt respect you?
ExpatInItaly Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 It's not really hypothetical. I'm in the middle of a case right now, my sister accused me of battery and I'm fighting the charges. The whole time she kept getting angry about my case and how bad it's gonna make me look. Like I chose to have my sister lie on me. I have to prove it in court. Instead, what I got was that she wouldn't wait on me if I spent too long in prison. So I said that if that were to happen she wouldn't wait, but support me as a friend. When I get out of prison we can pick things back up, according to her. O_O The answer wasn't hypothetical, I really am dealing with legal issues. Your use of "suppose" in your first post describing this situation led me to think it was hypothetical. Anyway, it's still drama you don't need. Why are you sticking around for it?
Author Natsu21 Posted August 9, 2014 Author Posted August 9, 2014 What do I explain? In your Original post -you dont know how she doesnt respect you? You do have a point.
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