Did I scare him away?

[fluffy84]

I invested 8 months in this guy I have a huge crush on. I would speak to him every time I see him. Finally, he got really comfortable and started making eye contact with me as he speak. I thought I read all the right signs so, after 8 months, I finally had the courage to tell him that he's hot and I like him. I suggested that we should hang out and he said, "Sure" I gave him my number and walked to my car. As I approach my car, he yell out

"I'll hit you up when I go running" I said, Sure.

 

It's been a month and he never called or texted me. Sometime I wonder if I gave him the wrong number but I don't think I did. Now, I have to find a different wal-mart to go shop at cause I don't want him to feel weird if he see me. I'm still trying to accept the fact that he's not interested in me. It hurts a little cause I've never went up to any guy before.

[ExpatInItaly]

I invested 8 months in this guy I have a huge crush on. I would speak to him every time I see him. Finally, he got really comfortable and started making eye contact with me as he speak. I thought I read all the right signs so, after 8 months, I finally had the courage to tell him that he's hot and I like him. I suggested that we should hang out and he said, "Sure" I gave him my number and walked to my car. As I approach my car, he yell out

"I'll hit you up when I go running" I said, Sure.

 

It's been a month and he never called or texted me. Sometime I wonder if I gave him the wrong number but I don't think I did. Now, I have to find a different wal-mart to go shop at cause I don't want him to feel weird if he see me. I'm still trying to accept the fact that he's not interested in me. It hurts a little cause I've never went up to any guy before.

 

First of all, kudos to you for having the guts to approach him! A lot girls wouldn't have the courage to do so.

 

What is the nature of your relationship to him? I gather he works at a Wal-Mart, and that you spotted him there while shopping. If so, how much contact did you have with him prior to this? What sort of signs were you reading? He might not even be single, for all we know. How much do you know about him?

[fluffy84]

First of all, kudos to you for having the guts to approach him! A lot girls wouldn't have the courage to do so.

 

What is the nature of your relationship to him? I gather he works at a Wal-Mart, and that you spotted him there while shopping. If so, how much contact did you have with him prior to this? What sort of signs were you reading? He might not even be single, for all we know. How much do you know about him?

 

I approach him on oct 2013. I go shopping there once a week and I would talk to him. The first two months he was uncomfortable but after that he would start saying hi to me and talk to me. Everytime he sees me, he would come talk to me. On Feb, I ask if he has a gf and he said No. I told him I don't either. He walked me to my car twice already.

 

The signs: He stare at me, wave Hi, always talk to me, walk close to me and make eye contact. I ask him again last month if he has a gf and he said no. He's too busy for that.

[ExpatInItaly]

I approach him on oct 2013. I go shopping there once a week and I would talk to him. The first two months he was uncomfortable but after that he would start saying hi to me and talk to me. Everytime he sees me, he would come talk to me. On Feb, I ask if he has a gf and he said No. I told him I don't either. He walked me to my car twice already.

 

The signs: He stare at me, wave Hi, always talk to me, walk close to me and make eye contact. I ask him again last month if he has a gf and he said no. He's too busy for that.

 

Well, there's your answer. He's too busy, doesn't want to commit, etc.

 

You don't need to stop going to that particular store. In fact, I would probably go again and just gauge his reaction. I'm a curious person in that way. Don't have any expectations, though. And don't take it too personally. You will have plenty of other opportunities to meet good guys!

[fluffy84]

Well, there's your answer. He's too busy, doesn't want to commit, etc.

 

You don't need to stop going to that particular store. In fact, I would probably go again and just gauge his reaction. I'm a curious person in that way. Don't have any expectations, though. And don't take it too personally. You will have plenty of other opportunities to meet good guys!

 

So, is that simple. If a guy say he is busy, it really mean he's busy? I thought it was just his way of telling me he's not interested. I guess I was thinking too much. I think I should keep going there cause is 2 mins from my house. Other wal-mart is 20 mins. I do want to see his reaction.

[Dork Vader]

So, is that simple. If a guy say he is busy, it really mean he's busy? I thought it was just his way of telling me he's not interested. I guess I was thinking too much. I think I should keep going there cause is 2 mins from my house. Other wal-mart is 20 mins. I do want to see his reaction.

 

 

 

Depends on the guy. But you need to move on with your life. 8+ months on a guy you only know because you shop there is unhealthy. I understand that it took you time to muster the courage and confidence to give him your number. But he has not called in over a month. He is not interested.

 

 

He might be emotionally unavailable. He might really be busy. He might just not be interested. Heck he could even be gay. Who knows what is going through his mind. What ever it is it's not going to change.

 

 

It's dust on your shoulder. You're a beautiful confident woman. Chalk it up as HIS loss and move on with your life. Plenty of other men out there.

 

 

I highly doubt you gave him the wrong number. But you can continue to shop there. If you did give him the wrong number he will more then likely seek you out.

[ExpatInItaly]

So, is that simple. If a guy say he is busy, it really mean he's busy? I thought it was just his way of telling me he's not interested. I guess I was thinking too much. I think I should keep going there cause is 2 mins from my house. Other wal-mart is 20 mins. I do want to see his reaction.

 

That's what partly what I was trying to imply with "doesn't want to commit, etc." I meant more that it might not be about you personally. This could just be a guy who doesn't want a girlfriend at the moment, doesn't want to get tied down. I wouldn't worry too much over the reasons. He had an opportunity with you and chose not to take it. His loss.

[fluffy84]

Depends on the guy. But you need to move on with your life. 8+ months on a guy you only know because you shop there is unhealthy. I understand that it took you time to muster the courage and confidence to give him your number. But he has not called in over a month. He is not interested.

 

 

He might be emotionally unavailable. He might really be busy. He might just not be interested. Heck he could even be gay. Who knows what is going through his mind. What ever it is it's not going to change.

 

 

It's dust on your shoulder. You're a beautiful confident woman. Chalk it up as HIS loss and move on with your life. Plenty of other men out there.

 

 

I highly doubt you gave him the wrong number. But you can continue to shop there. If you did give him the wrong number he will more then likely seek you out.

OMG, a lot of people been telling me, he might be gay hahha even his co-worker think he might be gay hahha But, I ask him and he say he like girls.

[Assasda]

OMG, a lot of people been telling me, he might be gay hahha even his co-worker think he might be gay hahha But, I ask him and he say he like girls.

 

hahaha maybe thats one reason he didnt call you then.

Maybe you insulted him.

 

Anyway, I think you should go back to Walmart, Enjoy your shopping there, and when you see him say hi to him. He'll realize that youre a big girl and you roll with the punches, who knows what will happen.

 

I dont recommend giving him your number again, but there's no reason to be scared off from your regular routine

[Noproblem]

Most guys like to chase the girl, there are only few who would welcome the approach from a girl.

 

He is obviously not interested!