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Do you choose partners based on your health and physical looks?

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Trane Established Member

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I've heard guys in the gym talk about staying in shape and having a good body in order to have a woman with an equally hot body who's in shape herself.

 

Everyone has their likes and dislikes which is a given in the dating world. Some people are a lot more discriminatory against others because their own looks makes them feel they are entitled to the same kind of quality person.

 

I don't entirely agree with this principle but I'm not entirely against it either. I can understand how woman with a strong background in fitness and physical activities wouldn't want an overweight, out-of-shape partner who would have trouble keeping up with her. Goes both ways but opposites do still attract IMO.

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RedRobin Established Member

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For me, it is about one's lifestyle. Someone who is very active and fit is likely not going to be happy with someone who is sedentary.

 

 

Probably won't be compatible in bed either. It's not just about looks.

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..... It's not a matter of an in shape person being entitled to date another in shape person, they just have the option to do so.

 

I think its both actually. I think every woman I've known who worked out and had an nice figure expected a guy that was well built. With guys its a mixture of both I'd say. The really well built guys especially if they have an inflated ego because of that do have an expectation of getting a trim hottie or a bit of an amazonian babe. How much they expected it because of the work they put in or how much they expected it because that became their standard since lots of girls are now are DTF for them, hard to say. I've seen a number of the guys in the gym who work out hard and have good physiques but don't have the stereotypical BB look and their gfs are regular in shape girls. A few are curvy but not overweight.

 

For me I don't need a gym honed body gf, though I'd love it, but having more options from going to the gym I'll take the slim build girl. I don't have a higher expectation attitude, but because I have put in a lot of effort over the years I resent dating an overweight woman who does nothing about it and expects to be loved for who she is as she is.

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women put a ton of effort into looking their best, at least the majority do. we have so many darn products and things we need to use. if my partner expects me to be hot and maintain my body and health i can sure as heck expect the same. and their level of fitness/health does impact the types of activities we would/would not enjoying doing together. i don't think a fat partner will want to get up and run with me each morning, but a fit one might. and i have given fat guys a chance,a nd they start off really great and energetic, but can't maintain a fit lifestyle very long. body type, fitness, looks are definitely a consideration.

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Trane Established Member

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women put a ton of effort into looking their best, at least the majority do. we have so many darn products and things we need to use. if my partner expects me to be hot and maintain my body and health i can sure as heck expect the same. and their level of fitness/health does impact the types of activities we would/would not enjoying doing together. i don't think a fat partner will want to get up and run with me each morning, but a fit one might. and i have given fat guys a chance,a nd they start off really great and energetic, but can't maintain a fit lifestyle very long. body type, fitness, looks are definitely a consideration.

 

I believe in the logic that opposites do attract, with the focus on personality being the foundation of difference. Physically, opposites can and do attract one another. Lifestyle also plays a significant role in how partners are chosen.

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i like to look inside the packages before i choose to date a guy.....i have commonly dated as a girl who is bigger.....and i have dated body builders fighters athletes but they have had altruistic backgrounds...because these guys actually know a bit about me and see what i have in me which is a fighters heart.....and a love of the outdoors and physical activity including dance...they havent minded i am bigger, their altruism and views on life and people in general have attracted me......not their bodies.... and i havent minded getting fit dating them...deb

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jay1983 Established Member

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It's seems the other way around, big people feel entitled to people in shape. I get a lot of BBWs that eyeball me and come on to me. When I did OLD countless BBWs rated my profile and several messaged me.

 

I'm sure women experience the same thing with overweight men approaching and sending messages.

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todreaminblue Established Member

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It's seems the other way around, big people feel entitled to people in shape. I get a lot of BBWs that eyeball me and come on to me. When I did OLD countless BBWs rated my profile and several messaged me.

 

I'm sure women experience the same thing with overweight men approaching and sending messages.

 

i dont feel entitled to anything other than to find a guy who respects me......i am entitled to respect as a bigger woman but more so as a woman in general...i give respect i expect to have that back.....deb

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i dont feel entitled to anything other than to find a guy who respects me......i am entitled to respect as a bigger woman but more so as a woman in general...i give respect i expect to have that back.....deb

 

Maybe entitled was wrong word, sorry Deb.

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Phoe Established Member

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No.

 

I keep myself looking nice and keep myself healthy for my own sake. It has no correlation to dating or a relationship.

 

Nor am I bothered about what a guy looks like. I don't expect a guy to work out just because I do.

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todreaminblue Established Member

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Maybe entitled was wrong word, sorry Deb.

 

its ok jay...i appreciate your apology..thanks.deb

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Shepp Established Member

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Taking looks out the equation for a minute - just look at hobbies, I want a girl who'll match me on my morning run, who'll take a trip to the gym with me, who wants to go for a hike/bike/surf/climb with me in our free time... Straight off the bat the girl who ticks those boxes, which are important to me, is more likely to be in shape, right?

 

And then looks count, I won't say anyone who says otherwise is kidding you cause I don't want to make sweeping statements, but if I said otherwise I'd be lying. A partner dosnt have to be attractive to the world but they have to be attractive to you - you can't make yourslef be attracted to someone if your simply not.

 

That said do I work out in order to get a in shape woman - no, I work out cause I love it and I like my body to be in peak condition.

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To me it doesn't matter that much. I have liked overweight and fit people to even bordeline anemic...skinny as hell xD haha.

I mean i accept all sort of people if they are compatible with me, personality wise. Sure i prefer the FITTER person, but i accept the rest to some degree.

 

Honestly, i can't stand overweight women, some look nice/ok, but most don't so nah. And when i say overweight i mean like by a LOT, slightly overweight is ok w/e, post pictures later for comparison xD.

 

However i know most people are not like that, expecially if i want the "OPTION" to date fit women as someone else mentioned, i also need to get fit...because most look for someone that is like them, it's how most of the world works.

 

Considering there are a lot of men that also take care of themselves, it's not like the FIT ladies are lacking options, so if i tried to hit on one, they wouldn't even look at me/ bother to get to know me.

Looks will matter first, find out their other qualities later, she has from who to pick, so they can find compatible people. So why not find a compatible partner that also looks good? ^^

 

In the end i see nothing wrong with this thinking, yes ofc, get someone as fit as you, it's not like only blockheads get fit, right?

U know them haters bashing the good looking guys for being just brawn and no brains xD, they just jelly.

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I like doing sports, and I enjoy testing my limits (within reason of course).

While I don't actually do all that with the intention/hope of getting shapely guys, overweight or skinny/bony guys are just a no-go for me.

 

A guy doesn't need muscles bigger than my head, but I still need something to sink my teeth into. :laugh:

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