notsointerested Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 (edited) I've been talking to a girl from my office and we seem to be getting along quite well. We've known each other for a month but only started talking last week. She likes my jokes, smiles a lot and she is interested in talking but it's always me initiating the conversation (is that a bad thing?). She said she wants me to show her the fitness centre that I talked about next week(possible hint or possible friendzone). But there are no other clear cut signs that she likes me (i.e. body language, flicking hair, blushing). She has a friendly personality which makes it hard to tell if she likes me or if she's just being friendly. I don't get a good opportunity to ask her out since she's always at her desk with other people, she finishes work after me and asking over the phone is a bit cheesy in my opinion. Should I even bother asking her out then? I mean, I can't find any evidence that she likes me. There's a slim chance it will go right, she'll say no and then awkwardness in the office. If she didn't work in the same place as me I would definitely go for it, but since she does, that makes it more difficult. And I feel I'm in the friendzone already.... Any tips? Edited August 9, 2014 by notsointerested
Author notsointerested Posted August 9, 2014 Author Posted August 9, 2014 So I should just leave it and not bother?
Kamila Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 Only a month ? Try to let your emotions cool down a bit. Try being good colleagues, then maybe friends. If you go too fast, you might scare her off. Plus, you work together. Be careful, I'm having that same issue right now also. 1
Author notsointerested Posted August 9, 2014 Author Posted August 9, 2014 Only a month ? Try to let your emotions cool down a bit. Try being good colleagues, then maybe friends. If you go too fast, you might scare her off. Plus, you work together. Be careful, I'm having that same issue right now also. I feel that if I wait too long, she'll put me in the friend zone. Yes, it is a risky situation and walking away is probably the best option right now, right? Just curious, what are you going to do about your situation?
Polak Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 +1 for waiting it out a bit. It's always better to be on the safe side when it comes to the workplace. If you move in too fast you could just flip everything upside down and regret it. The fact that you are the only one initiating convos right now doesn't necessarily mean she is only being friendly, but considering the other few signals you've noticed are missing (body language), I would trust your gut and tread cautiously.
Author notsointerested Posted August 10, 2014 Author Posted August 10, 2014 +1 for waiting it out a bit. It's always better to be on the safe side when it comes to the workplace. If you move in too fast you could just flip everything upside down and regret it. The fact that you are the only one initiating convos right now doesn't necessarily mean she is only being friendly, but considering the other few signals you've noticed are missing (body language), I would trust your gut and tread cautiously. Well I have asked around and it seems most of the people say it's risky since it's a workplace situation. But it would be annoying if after all the time I waited, she picked up a new boyfriend by the time I got round to asking her out (if I did). I was planning on asking her out next week but I probably should abandon those plans.
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