Slidingdoors Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 I love my AP. I don't know how he feels. I know he feels an intense connection, but that's all. I'm afraid to ask how he feels and afraid to tell him how I feel. We were talking and seeing each other every day. Then, as soon as it got physical, he said he needed a break. No email, no seeing each other, nothing. Not two hours later he emailed to say he wanted me again, then nothing for 2 days until a random email and call about nothing. I don't understand. This separation is so painful. Just as things got really intense he pulled away. I know I have no right to anything but it hurts and I don't understand. It would be easier if he just broke it off entirely but this back and forth is killing me. Why would he do this? Did it get too intense? Responses from WS only please, no flames. Looking to understand...if you've done this, why? If you've experienced this, what happened?
IfWishesWereHorses Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 I'm not a WS, sorry. I can tell you he's grooming you to accept what he's willing to TAKE ( from you). Read your initial post and tell us what you honestly expect a WS to answer to that?? "He really wants to be with you, but he's too shy, has commitment issues, doesn't want to leave his children????" He wants an affair, something fun and easy to maintain. I doubt he enjoys meeting his wife's needs much less someone else's. I do think it might be a test, to see if you're a worthy FWB. Most MM do the give and take, it's almost assured to bring results. Try it out for yourself. The next five times he calls don't answer, then watch the number increase! I think that's just human nature!
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