macbeth27 Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 (edited) Question from a British guy: I've just come home after spending 4 hours with a Chinese girl, starting with a coffee then proceeding to a restaurant. Before we started eating, she asked me if I had a girlfriend (after I mentioned that I used to be in a relationship with another Chinese girl), then later took a photo of me as the food arrived. However, upon later asking her (at an appropriate time) if she had a boyfriend, she told me she does (in China), and seemed reluctant to elaborate. Sensing a potential misunderstanding on my part, I made sure to ask if she'd like to meet again before we said goodbye, to which she said yes. What can I interpret from these seemingly contradictory signals? (PS - To anyone who read all of this, many thanks for your patience!) Edited August 8, 2014 by macbeth27
Smilecharmer Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 Either she already has a bf and is a cheater type or you are just a friend. Either one means this wasn't a date really because she is either a cheater or you are a friend. I would find someone else.
Iris17 Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 How did you end up going on a date with someone who has a bf? Is she looking for something casual? And are you okay to date her if she has a bf already? If you really like her you should ask her and make it clear, unless you are also looking for casual fun
ExpatInItaly Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 She has a boyfriend. That should be your first and last date with her. Find someone who is actually single. 6
HappyLove Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 Why would you ask someone out who told you she has a boyfriend?
starrynightz45 Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 Question from a British guy: I've just come home after spending 4 hours with a Chinese girl, starting with a coffee then proceeding to a restaurant. Before we started eating, she asked me if I had a girlfriend (after I mentioned that I used to be in a relationship with another Chinese girl), then later took a photo of me as the food arrived. However, upon later asking her (at an appropriate time) if she had a boyfriend, she told me she does (in China), and seemed reluctant to elaborate. Sensing a potential misunderstanding on my part, I made sure to ask if she'd like to meet again before we said goodbye, to which she said yes. What can I interpret from these seemingly contradictory signals? (PS - To anyone who read all of this, many thanks for your patience!) Hmm...very odd indeed. To be honest, I don't think this has anything to do with her being Chinese. I think (as far as I can tell from what you wrote) that she is hanging out with you as a friend. 1. Did you pay for her? What was the context of you two meeting? Because it seems odd to me that she'd agree to come out on what was clearly a "date" if she has a boyfriend. 2. Was there a semi-language barrier? I ask because you said you sensed a misunderstanding. If there was, it's possible she didn't understand your question correctly.
Iris17 Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 I have a feeling that to him it was a date, but to her it was not. 1
crosswordfiend Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 The most important thing you need to find out is whether she plans on staying in the UK or not, and if so what is her path to gaining residency. She probably does have a boyfriend back home but will drop him for an opportunity to hook up with a local guy and secure her immigration status. I'm in Canada and I see this happening all the time.
Thegreatestthing Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 Wouldn't she just lie about the bf if she was going to do that,it's pretty strange that she told you outright she had a bf on what seems like a date possibly it was just a meeting with a friend to her
allenpo123 Posted August 10, 2014 Posted August 10, 2014 i get these kinds. some chinese girls(not all) enjoy having a 'local bf'. she probably isn't that serious with her chinese bf, but she isn't going to be serious with you either. If you're looking for the real thing, break it off with her. She's not worth your time.
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