Victim of unrequited love. A girl I loved truly rejected me. What now?

[wizardvolt]

I am the victim of unrequited love. There is a girl in my university one year junior to me and I am madly in love with her. We usually had small conversations and I really started to like her as a person since last one year. And one day I told her my feelings for her but I was rejected stating that she don't have same feelings for me as she don't know much about me as I am not her class mate and there is hardly any scope in future as well. She doesn’t wants to give me false hopes. She had a bad experience in the past with a nasty breakup two years ago. Though she was very polite in all this. She even text me to greet on friendship day. She also texted me and asked me how my technical papers went and when I gave reserved reply she said why I am not talking normally to which I had small normal conversation before I went offline.

 

She don’t know me? What the heck, even we don’t know our mother when we are born! So that doesn't stop us from loving her when we grow up! We in fact don’t know ourselves, it’s just a name which identify us. Point is that this is just no physical attraction for that there are better girls out there, but just as pure as love. Why can't just people realize that they are losing a moon in search of finding stars? I am not that bad looking but just don't have a gym type physique else I see no fault in myself. I am six foot tall, lean and fit and in fact many of my female friends have given me compliments about my appearance and personality. And it's not that she is out of my league both in looks or financially.

 

Either her expectations are too high which will only leave her disappointed in future when she will realize that she just didn't care of someone's genuine feelings. This is just so injustice. And they say true love never dies, that's what keeps my hopes alive and I still and will always love her.

 

Don't know why this happened to me, maybe I was too quick in saying this but it was just killing me from inside by not able to convey my feelings for her. She told me that I should be friend her and should not stop talking to her like before. Should I be friend with her or totally disconnect and ignore her. Or should I believe in miracles and hope that someday she will realise her mistake and come back to me on her own!?? Though I don’t have much time in my course, 6 months for the current semester in which placements have started and from January I have to start with my job. Max one year more I will be associated with this place.

 

I am trying to get over this but the problem is that this girl is still in my university and I will see her quite often in the campus including facebook, whatsapp etc.

 

My only concern is now how to face this girl in the campus.

 

What if I see here eye to eye, what if she texts me?

 

Should I be like completely normal or totally disconnect and ignore her!

 

She already told me that I should be wiser enough to NOT to stop talking to her and ignore her after her reaction. She even sent me happy friendship day message on whatsapp after a day of that meeting and I just replied back with thanks & same to you.

 

Bit awkward situation to see and face this girl again!

 

I will try to focus back on my life and leave all up to the almighty.

 

I am so disappointed, feeling depressed, going through most tough phase of my life, lost all enthusiasm, not able to concentrate on my placement preparations and I have kind of lost faith in true love because everyone say true love never dies!!! Looks like everything is fake and everybody just prefers show off no matter if it is not real!

[Quiet Storm]

Attraction isn't logical. You are thinking that she should want you because of looks, finances, your kindness- and simply because you love her. Unfortunately it doesn't work that way.

 

She isn't physically attracted. She doesn't feel drawn to you. But she likes you as a person and would be friends with you.

 

 

The best thing is for you to move on. There will be other girls. Dont allow yourself to get emotionally invested unless the woman reciprocates interest.

 

Rejection isnt the end of the world. There are many more girls. You are young. Focus on school, get a job, then meet women.

 

And babies dont know their mom when they are born??? As a mother of 3, I can say you are wrong. I can guarantee you knew your mom when you were born- the sound of her voice, the depth of her breath, the rhythm of her heart.

 

You have no clue about what love is yet, but it's OK. Be patient and meet lots of different people. Let this one go.

[Grilled_Salmon]

Best move on, or you *may* end up doing stupid things that you'll possibly regret for quite a long time.