Iris17 Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 Recently broke up with my Bf and decided to go travelling since it is what I have wanted to do for a long time. Saved up money already and been wanting to quit my job for a long time. I'm gonna go in a few months because I need a bit more time to heal. My family and friends support the idea cos they are sick of hearing me saying 'I'm gonna leave and travel end of this year' in the last 10 years. I'm gonna be going alone but meet friends in some countries. I'm just scared that I will be thinking of him and won't enjoy the trip as much as I should be? But I'm also thinking maybe it will help make me stop thinking about him?
mr_dave Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 It's a good idea, you need to keep living your life as fully as possible! I went to Spain by myself for a bit after splitting with my ex of 3.5 years, and although I had a nice time, it wasn't the same without someone special to share it with. If you're a bit more outgoing than I am and make new friends, as well as visiting old ones you'll have a blast. Where are you heading to? 1
Author Iris17 Posted August 8, 2014 Author Posted August 8, 2014 Thinking japan, Nepal, Indonesia and Thailand for now. That's the thing I'm not the most confident person but I'm not awfully shy. I'm okay I can make friends quite easily as I'm open minded. However I can be insecure in relationships and this might be good to travel,to find myself and build confidence.
me85 Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 (edited) Good for you! I'm so jealous! That's all I've been saying since my BU. A whole year has passed and although I've traveled to other states alone and met new friends along the way and had a great time I want BIGGER! lol Out of the country bigger! I'm very outgoing. I had a brief moment on my last trip (a festival) where I was sad but it was because my ex was there too with his new gf. It was hard for like 2 hours. LOL Then I met cool people from all over the world and had a blast. I tend to do better when I get out & do things. It definitely helps me. I meet people easily. Very social and free spirited so traveling is more than appropriate for me when I'm going through heartache. Edited August 8, 2014 by me85
ExpatInItaly Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 I couldn't recommend it more!! I did the same after my long-term, live-in ex and split. I took myself on a solo vacation to Italy and loved it so much that I moved here about 1.5 yrs ago. I now live and work here in Rome and never looked back. Traveling and gaining a new perspective are extremely beneficial, in my experience. Good luck and safe travels! 2
Author Iris17 Posted August 8, 2014 Author Posted August 8, 2014 Ahh that sucks when you know your ex is at the same place..with the new GF!! Glad to hear you still had fun. Well I just found out that my ex is gonna travel too but going to Australia. This shocked me abit as I have asked him before to travel with me but no he wanted to pay off mortgage for the house which is not his fault. I heard he is having a hard time with the break up too and wants a change now. I'm happy for him though and it will do him good.
Author Iris17 Posted August 8, 2014 Author Posted August 8, 2014 I couldn't recommend it more!! I did the same after my long-term, live-in ex and split. I took myself on a solo vacation to Italy and loved it so much that I moved here about 1.5 yrs ago. I now live and work here in Rome and never looked back. Traveling and gaining a new perspective are extremely beneficial, in my experience. Good luck and safe travels! How long after break up did you leave the country?
me85 Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 Ahh that sucks when you know your ex is at the same place..with the new GF!! Glad to hear you still had fun. Well I just found out that my ex is gonna travel too but going to Australia. This shocked me abit as I have asked him before to travel with me but no he wanted to pay off mortgage for the house which is not his fault. I heard he is having a hard time with the break up too and wants a change now. I'm happy for him though and it will do him good. That's a great attitude you have! Keep it up! Go do and see as much as you can. All I keep thinking is what all I want to accomplish before I die. I mean, you never know when your time is up so go go go!!!!
preraph Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 Yes! Traveling is absolutely possibly the very best way to get over heartbreak. There's nothing like exploring the world to give you a new perspective and make you realize how many possibilities there are out there and make you realize what a waste of time it is to dwell on this one person when you could be out there having fun doing new things instead. Bon voyage! He will seem like a blip on the screen by the time you get back.
Author Iris17 Posted August 9, 2014 Author Posted August 9, 2014 He will seem like a blip on the screen by the time you get back. i hope so!!
guest569 Posted August 9, 2014 Posted August 9, 2014 I personally would put it off until I was feeling a bit better. I did travelling and took leave from work (i planned it before the breakup) it was a waste for me because I was miserable. On one trip I was able to put thoughts of him aside and roamed some beautiful tranquil gardens. But on another trip I was really upset the whole time. But thats me, and I was in a really bad way. This was during and immediately after the breakup. I guess it depends how you are feeling, how long ago the breakup was and what progress you have made.
Author Iris17 Posted August 9, 2014 Author Posted August 9, 2014 I personally would put it off until I was feeling a bit better. I did travelling and took leave from work (i planned it before the breakup) it was a waste for me because I was miserable. On one trip I was able to put thoughts of him aside and roamed some beautiful tranquil gardens. But on another trip I was really upset the whole time. But thats me, and I was in a really bad way. This was during and immediately after the breakup. I guess it depends how you are feeling, how long ago the breakup was and what progress you have made. It will be 4-5 months since the break up by the time I leave. At the moment I am still sad, I'm trying to get better before I go.
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